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Kim - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i live in the uk and have a 2year old child , the father and i am not together anymore and when i split i begged him to see his child . he didnt really seem that bothered, in the last nine months he has seen his child about 5 times and he turns up when he suites him , the last couple of times our childen has cryed and screamed and been very emotinal about going i think its because he dont know who this man is. it is very upsetting for myself and my little boy is there anything i can do

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Beth - posted on 09/19/2012

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I live in the UK as well. You could look at taking your ex through court. There is the option of using CAFCASS to have supervised visits from your ex in a safe neutral place. Certainly my ex has threatened me with CAFCASS several times but still haven't got any paperwork through the post (think that ex hasn't actually done anything just empty threats).



As for contact - you have asked him to. Let your ex realise what he's missing out on. My ex is in and out of my three girls' lives. I don't chase him and let him do his own damage to his reptuation (of being a Dad who can't be bothered to maintain contact). I would say back off from your ex for the time being and let him accept that he has to grow up and make the effort himself to maintain contact.



Even though your ex is currently choosing not to be an active part in your child's life, he still is responsible to pay child maintance - contact the CSA if you haven't already and make sure it gets sorted.

Kristin - posted on 09/12/2012

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Take him to court for access every other weekend and if he only wants to be there once in a while do not let your child be with him alone or for sleep overs. Basically this man is a stranger tyo your child even though he is his bio dad. Tell bio dad he needs toi be in the childs life on a consitent regular long term basis or not at all. Keep in mind evben if he choses to not see the child he is still resonsible to pay child support. Best of luck

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