Lauren - posted on 07/17/2009 ( 55 moms have responded )
Hi my name is Lauren. I am 21 years old and pregnant for the first time. I am due in Nov. 2009. My bf (ex-bf) and I have seperated due to his lack of self controll in the temper department. He has the emotional IQ of a 3 year old. He knows he has a problem but he has stilled scarred me more than once and has gotten physical more than once, but only once after we found out i was prego. I left him then, and let him hang around to visit. But he has made threats and said angry things in the heat of the moment, but later claims they are only angry words. I have several questions actually, and though my family has their opinions I would like some outside opinions.
I know he is willing to give the baby his last name but should I give her his or mine, especially if he has threatened in anger to take the baby?
He says he really loves me, but he hates my family, even the ones he hasn't met. He wants to be there for the birth. Would this be a good idea especially if my family hates him for what he's done to me? I don't want fights but If he wants to be involved in Evey's (the baby) life I want him to be.
His family hates me and thinks really horrible things of me ( they are really kinda crazy so they have fabricated up some riddiculous things to hate me for, none of which are true) and he is really irresponsible and I don't fully trust him. What should I do about visitation?
I have lots of questions but these are at the top of my list. I would really like to know any of your ladies opinions. Thank you!