My child's father

Toshamarie09 - posted on 08/11/2017 ( 1 mom has responded )

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OKAy ladies I need some information please I'm from Louisiana, well okay ladies I have a little girls she almost 2 she turns 2 on December 2 well her father hasn't even been in her life like he supposed to to me his a dead beat he hasn't even done anything for her but bought one thing which was a build a bear work shop bear he never makes time for her he never messages me to ask about her I have to message him for him to even ask about her well he messaged me out the blue yesterday and was like how's my daughter I was like okay he's like I need more than just okay well blah blah he was like being mean telling me next year he gunna get joint costody of my daughter but I don't think he deserves it I mean I know no one should keep there kid from no parent but really what has he done for her nothing, he never bought anything for her just a bear I had proof that he was broke had no place to go and just found a job but doesn't live in a stable place I mean what some girls house he uses that's not no stable place but anyways he got arrested for domestic abuse battery last year with him and his father and when we was togeather befor he use to treat me like shyt like he never hit me but he called me names with my daughter I in my hands we was living at his apartment well the guy he was living with he was trying to kick me out one day but it wasn't his place it was his friends like really to think I had his daughter he was gunna try and kick us out sad huh? But anyways he is trying to get joint costody to me he doesn't deserve it he hasn't done anything and my daughter doesn't even no him she been around him when she was way younger but my child's father has no patience and doesn't no how to talk to her being she so young she doesn't know much but when he try's to correct her he is loudness and he sometimes whips her like baby's don't know so why do that she is very sensitive cause she been around me when she something that she doesn't supposed to I talk to her and tel her no when he looks at her and talks she crys but anyways my question is what can I do? I just want him having no visitation rights nothing else I don't want him keeping her over night and all I'm scared I don't trust him he doesn't even have a stable house and I sure don't want her around no other female so please help I'm at work so I had type the quick sorry if it sounds confusing but let's just put it this way he is a dead beat I also got videos of him smoking weed and all like no I don't want my kid around this

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Ev - posted on 08/13/2017

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{{OKAy ladies I need some information please I'm from Louisiana, well okay ladies I have a little girls she almost 2 she turns 2 on December 2 well her father hasn't even been in her life like he supposed to to me his a dead beat he hasn't even done anything for her but bought one thing which was a build a bear work shop bear he never makes time for her he never messages me to ask about her I have to message him for him to even ask about her well he messaged me out the blue yesterday and was like how's my daughter I was like okay he's like I need more than just okay well blah blah he was like being mean telling me next year he gunna get joint costody of my daughter but I don't think he deserves it I mean I know no one should keep there kid from no parent but really what has he done for her nothing, }}
~~~~~~~Okay, so you have had a child with a man and you have not set up custody, child support, or even visitation? You can not expect him to be willing to provide for her unless you go through the courts. You need documentation of that.

{{he never bought anything for her just a bear I had proof that he was broke had no place to go and just found a job but doesn't live in a stable place I mean what some girls house he uses that's not no stable place}}
~~~~~~What proof do you have? You need evidence that is documented.

{{ but anyways he got arrested for domestic abuse battery last year with him and his father and when we was togeather befor he use to treat me like shyt like he never hit me but he called me names with my daughter I in my hands we was living at his apartment well the guy he was living with he was trying to kick me out one day but it wasn't his place it was his friends like really to think I had his daughter he was gunna try and kick us out sad huh?}}}
~~~~~~~His being arrested for docmestic battery does not prove he can not be apart of this child's life.

{{ But anyways he is trying to get joint costody to me he doesn't deserve it he hasn't done anything and my daughter doesn't even no him she been around him when she was way younger but my child's father has no patience and doesn't no how to talk to her being she so young she doesn't know much but when he try's to correct her he is loudness and he sometimes whips her like baby's don't know so why do that she is very sensitive cause she been around me when she something that she doesn't supposed to I talk to her and tel her no when he looks at her and talks she crys but anyways my question is what can I do?}}
~~~~~~~YOU need to get a court order for visitation, child support, and custody. Until then he has as much right to take her as you do and there is nothing you can do about it without the court orders.

{{ I just want him having no visitation rights nothing else I don't want him keeping her over night and all I'm scared I don't trust him he doesn't even have a stable house and I sure don't want her around no other female so please help I'm at work so I had type the quick sorry if it sounds confusing but let's just put it this way he is a dead beat I also got videos of him smoking weed and all like no I don't want my kid around this}}
~~~~~~~If you go through court you have no say in whether he gets the right to have visitation or not. That is the judge's decision. You have to prove he is unfit to be around her. As for being around other females, you do not have the right to dictate that unless you get it in court orders. Videos of him doing weed is not necessarily accepted as evidence....you need to ask a lawyer.

You SHOULD HAVE taken care of this a long time ago.

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