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My fiance left me when I was 6 months pregnant. I was the better person and called him when I went into labor and he was there during the birth. We chose to name our son Owen Bruce he signed the affidavit of parentage with only his first name on it since we hadn't decided on a middle name. He made the assumption I was going to give him his last name but I didn't. When he found this out he flipped and got himself an attorney. I got served papers saying I was being sued over it. Thankfully I have grandparents who are amazing and they are paying for my attorney (up to $2500) to take care of this. My attorney advices me to change his name (my ex wants to have his name hyphenated) The reasons my attorney says to just change it is the fact that the case would go to trial and I would have to pay for expert witness fees and her to do all this research and on and on and it could cost up to $10k and we would probably lose because all the other similar cases not only did the man win but the judge also ruled that the women had to pay his attorney fees too. In all the other cases however the couples were married. Since Jon and I were never married I don't see why I should do it. What does anybody think? Should I cave or stand my ground? If he wanted his son to have his last name he would have stuck with the relationship when things got tough.