My Son asks for his Father...

Raina - posted on 02/02/2010

Thanks mommies! i feel better knowing i am not alone, he came yesterday evening saying he's taking me to court! he wants to be there full time and leave me out of their lives I CAN'T WIN THIS ONE! i need a lawyer for this one! i will fight for them! it will be worth fighting for these 2 boys!

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2010

I am a child from a divorced family. My parents divorced when I was 5 and my dad would do the same thing with being there every other month at first then when I was 6 it became once a year then at age 8 it was not at all then back in my life when I was 12 and it was really hard to adjust. I always wished that he was either in my life all the way or out of it completely. Peek a boo dads are very stressful on kids and I know that it is heart breaking to hear where is my dad, can I see him. But if he is only there like how my dad was its going to be a tuff childhood. He needs to leave the relationship behind so that your child can move on instead of being hurt.

Rebecca - posted on 01/26/2010

I know how you feel, I am going through the same thing, sort of, my ex is an alcoholic and always had me bring my son to him for visits. The judge told me that it was his responsability to come visit so I stopped taking my son. After that, my son was just over a year, I never heard from my ex and don't even know where he lives anymore. My son keeps saying that I need to find him a dad. And even one day said that he has a dad but he lives in the tv and he can only see him when he is sleeping. It makes me cry whenever I have to say I don't know where your dad is. But it is very sweet that my son says don't worry mommy you'll find one next week. Please don't worry too much about your ex being in the kids lives, just make sure to let them know the true about the situation and that they are loved by you, which I am sure that they already know.

Nermina - posted on 01/25/2010

I have same problem...My son is 5 and half,and he didn t see his father 4 years but every 15 days he ask for him...........last time I was crying when he ask me "Please mom can just see how is he looking,and we can back home,I just want to see what color is his eyes and hair"........that was so heartbreaking :((( I think that only thing that we can do,is to wait that they have enogh year to tell them the true.................................Sorry for my english ;))...........Big kiss four you,and your son:**

Norma - posted on 01/25/2010

I know how tuff it is to have your child ask for daddy and not beable to give them an explanation that they will understand. I also know how tuff it is to cope with 2 wee ones by your self when you cant comprahend the choice he is making in your own head. But you know something you can cope i not sure how we do it but when them little ones were born a swich was flicked and mummy mode was swiched on and you will fine the strenth to get through this. Just try to comfort your wee one and let them know no matter what mummy is there and at this moment in time daddy cant be because there is other things he needs to do the now. Hope this help or at least gives you some comfort.

BarbarA - posted on 01/25/2010

right now you can be all you can be to your sons and f---- him if he keep on drinking by the time they get older he'll killl his own self and you won't have to explain a lot but right now act like he is still in jail

Kari - posted on 01/21/2010

I no it's hard for u but u ave to be strong for you kids, I have a 3 year old son and his dad was murdered Feb. 11 2009. My son misses him alot and I dont have any family of friends to help me with my son. I am very depressed an I stress everyday but i try not to show my son that im sad everyday, He is my world an my soul an the job is very hard but it's very worth it!!! I would die for my son an I no u would do the same for your kids. If u cant get him back in there lives move on. If u dont want another man thats fine cuz Im alone now. Jus make sure them babies are happy, thats all that matters.

Kaitlin - posted on 01/20/2010

i know how you feel my daughter is 2 and a half and her father has constantly been in and out of her life he has not seen her in the past four months and everytime she hears the word daddy she ask who her daddy is and where he is at i feel so bad everytime and he just popped up today and asked when he can see her i feel horrible saying no but i think its better to have him out of her life than to have him flake out on her all the time but everytime she asks i feel my heart break its the worst feeling in the world to think your childs feelings are hurt especially by their own father

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2010

I can only imagine. I just left my ex and my son asks for his dad too but our situation is different than yours-he does see his dad every other weekend. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. He will remember that his mommy was there for him when he gets older.

Raina - posted on 01/20/2010

Thanks Melissa! my son is so adorable when he asks and it`s so heartbreaking when he asks for him :(

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2010

He doesn't deserve to be around your children. I know it is hard and especially when the kids are young but be strong for them. Remember to set some time aside for yourself, we all love our kids but need a break sometimes. Good luck.