My son has high heel fetish what to do? It's scary

Supermom - posted on 06/20/2016 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone basically this is about my 17 year son who has a foot fetish more precisely high heel,sandal women footwear in general fetish.I have two daughters of age 19 and 10 and my 17 year old son.One day when I came back home at night after a long full day of stressful work in my company I just kicked my heels off and took a shower and as I was going to the dining room I saw my son smelling and licking the soles of my high heels which I had worn the full day . He had taken my heels which I had kicked off in a careless manner to his room.Fortunately he had not closed his room properly and as a result of which I was able to see a shocking scene in front of my eyes .It was so dirty he was licking the soles of my high heels with his tongue then he started smelling them too , I was just shocked I had never seen such a scene .At first I thought I should go and give him a slap on his face and ask him what the hell he was doing with my heels but then somehow I didn't disturb him and I silently made my way to the dining room downstairs .Then when I was sitting on the dining table I called him for dinner he responded with a yes and came running to the dining table .As I was eating I was still getting that scene in my mind and I was still not able to believe that it was my son who was actually licking all the dirt of my heels all the dust ,the dirty used food item wrappers which sometimes stick to the bottom of the shoe he was completely licking them .I asked myself how can someone do that ? I wanted to ask him desperately but then I thought if I asked him such a question now then he would feel embarrassed so I didn't ask him anything about that scene and behaved normally.The next day also I saw him doing the same thing . So yes I finally believed that this is real .Since I was unaware of such thing so I searched the Internet about licking woman heels eye and I found infinite number of results about such things and most shockingly in many websites it is stated that it is a common thing at his age .I even read the Wikipedia page about foot fetish and they have explained the reason behind it in a very scientific manner .Now the question which was bothering in my mind does my son licks only my heels or does he even lick the heels,sandals of my two daughters too?.One thing was for sure that he doesn't do anysuch thing in school or anywhere because I have got no complain of him from anyone .Also let me tell you he is very good in his studies and sports too .One of my daughter goes to college and the other one is very small she is just 10 years old and goes to school my son will graduate from school this year now on Sunday I saw another shocking scene and it answered the question which was bothering me . I saw my son licking the sandals of my 19 year old daughter and he was also kicking the school shoes of my 10 year old daughter ahh ! It was terrible he was once again licking the soles of their foot wear with his tongue and smelling them too .My daughters were watching TV at hat time so he took their shoes to his room and started licking them I noticed him as I was keeping a secret watch on his activities .Now if I told my daughters about their brother's shoe licking activity I am pretty sure they would make fun of him especially the younger daughter as she won't understand Much about such a thing .So what I did was that one day I started discussing about new heels with my elder daughter while he was around I noticed that he used to pay a lot of attention to talks related to heels.Now one day I finally spoke to him about his fetish ,he admitted licking heels of his sisters and mine.He told me he likes doing it and it gives him immense pleasure.I didn't scold him and told him that he can continue to lick my heels provided he doesn't do anything like this by mistake in public or anywhere else except home.I discussed his fetish with my elder daughter she was initially shocked but later we both decided that we would let him lick our high heels as it is not harmful to anyone .Now the problem was to explain this thing to the younger daughter my elder daughter helped me a lot in this case she told the younger one that his brother is a shoe polisher only in home that is whenever you want to get your shoes polished you can just tell your brother to do it but only when you both are in home ,outside the home he would never do such a thing .The elder also told the younger to never reveal this thing about his brother to anyone else .The younger one happily agreed as she didn't understand much about fetishes or anything and so she was happy .Now in the morning when my younger daughter is about to go to school she tells her big brother to lick her soles and polish her shoes which he happily does similarly the elder one when she is about to go to college she tells her brother to lick her sandals ,heels etc clean and he happily does that.Intially I didn't want to do the same thing as my daughters' but then my son insisted that he wants to lock my office heels before I leave for office so now even I get my heels completely licked from soles to everywhere before I leave for office .It is very awkward actually to see my own son licking my heels while I am standing talking to someone on the phone .It was even more humiliating that's what I thought when my younger daughter was drinking her milk and his big brother her school shoes .But he doesn't find humiliating at all he finds it absolutely erotic that's what he told me.I really sometimes feel bad that he has such a fetish .Now it has become a normal thing in our home we all three ladies in the house just tell him it's licking time and he starts licking our heels and we don't even notice it as if it's a normal thing .One day when he was licking my heels at that time I was drinking my coffee and thinking about my presentation and I didn't notice him down licking my heels,I just asked him have you licked it clean he answered yes and I left for office .Another day when my elder daughter was talking to her friend I saw my son was licking her heels while she was standing elegantly talking to someone and the sad part was that since she was in quite a hurry she just stepped on her brother's face with the heels and walked away .I scolded her for that but when I apologised to my son for the elder daughter ,s actions he said that he liked it when she trampled her face with heels .The only thing I worry that he may fall sick by licking all the dirt of our heels ,soles of my heels get sometime lot of dirt on them and by licking them clean all that dirt goes into his stomach .The school shoes of my younger daughter are the most dirtiest and he locks then completely clean that's so weird .Now I don't know whether I am doing the right thing do I would like all you moms to give some advice should I let him lock my heels ? Or should I stop this ? .Please I seriously need help on this issue

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Lujain - posted on 10/07/2016

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By the way I have some questions:

1- When do you offer him to lick the shoes? (Morning before work, or after) ... I can give some tricks to eliminate any chance of sickness (crossed fingers)
2- Does he lick the shoes while you're wearing them or while they're off? (Is it always associated with your presence or not)
3- Is it all about shoes?? or have you tried other footwear (like socks).. we want to make sure whether its pure shoes fetish or mixed shoe and foot fetish...

Scott - posted on 07/06/2016

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Sounds like your son has chosen his path in life and you probably ran across the descriptive word in your searches,slave.
You may realize that this about female worship known as "Femdom?

Your 19yo has demonstrated his ultimate desires and where all of this really leads even if it does not happen. In my personal experience, women who disgrace/disfigure the face of men with injury usually don't have any problem inflicting even more deeper painful humiliations. Your 19yo knows that in his mind he is just shoe dirt, and few are sorry about hurting dirt. Sorry for being blunt

In your son's fetish mind, he is achieving sexual security, self acceptance, and the thrill of testing himself. I was 19yo when I got a job in a womens shoe store. I was really confirmed at age 13 as a hard core shoe lover. I remember doing some licking myself,lol

You may stop your son, but, that is not going to stop him from going to the next level. He will find a way to do it. For me, I found professional women who cater to men.

My best suggestion is to help him find a g/f that will accept his desires, they are out there. I'm sure your son has good qualities that a girl will like and over look what might be deemed strange behavior.
You can get a ton of help on Femdom message boards!

Leo - posted on 09/15/2016

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I can understand well your son cos l have same feelings. . Since my childhood l like ladies feet , shoes, nylones...also l always dreamed that trampling under them...l can't know why? And be sure that please, nobody or any therapy can change or help...l had never chance to experience that in my childhood. ..now 48 , still l try to reach shoes or feet for licking...anyway , please don't be sad, and l have to say thank you for helped your son in your daily life...keep on because he need it. If he try to find with foreigners , it could be dangerous. ..it's my opinion maybe l am wrong but as l said before , l have same feelings as your son...l tried to help you, let him to continue in family. ...one day of course he will share all with his girl friend. ...why not?

Supermom - posted on 07/30/2016

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Well the latest update is that nothing has changed my 19 yo son is still licking my and my daughters heels .My daughters are absolutely fine with it and my youngest daughter is very happy as she likes someone licking clean her school shoes .But I still don't like it licking my heels .I told him to restrict his activities he did it for some time but now again it has started at same rate .I don't know what to do as my daughters are OK with it and my son is extremely happy .So If I make him stop doing this forcefully then it may upset my son and my daughters too .So I need an advice how to make it stop completely without hurting anyone 's feeling ?.My daughters are happy that their heels ,shoes and sandals remain clean including soles and they don't have to do it .Also I wanted to ask the dirt from the heels etc which goes into his stomach won't it affect his health?.I really need some help on this issue the soles of heels ,sandals are obviously dirty the dust etc all goes into his stomach even the dust from my heels.What to do now ?

Supermom - posted on 10/15/2016

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He is normal outside interacts with everyone normally plays cricket .If you see him first time you would think he is just like a normal kid .This is a fetish which he has don't know how he developed such a weird fetish .He likes the dirt of my heels that makes him feel happy

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Mark - posted 5 days ago

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Any update about your son, is he still licking ur heels , if problem solved please share the solution

Cindy - posted on 02/14/2017

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I can understand your concerns of your son licking dust and dirt off the soles of yours and your daughters shoes. But besides dirt have you ever though about where you walk and may step on in the course of the day. Of the shoes he licks do you and your daughters ever go into a public restroom? If so, is the floor wet or dry? Also, do you and your daughters ever step on bugs? Have you ever stepped on a bug at work, the mall, sidewalk, etc and then your son licked those shoe soles that night? What about your daughters do they step on every bug they see? I ask this because if your shoes have leather soles there is probable crushed bug remains still ground into the soles. You ever think about this?

Mark - posted on 12/27/2016

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I wonder if his fetish is to lick butthole, would you let him lick yours and your daughters too, and get used to it everyday. you say to your own son "its licking time" and he start licking. How do you think this will help him!?, you couldn't try to make him feel better about himself and respect himself enough to not doing such degrading things?,

If your daughter wants to lick your heels would you simply let her do it, and lick her brother's shoes too!?

I hope I find an answer to these.

Cindy - posted on 11/03/2016

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Hi supermom, I'm curious if you could give another update as to how it's going. Has he still been cleaning you and your daughters' shoes? Is this a daily thing now and is it completely normal for you guys now? Also, have you been starting to not feel as awkward having him clean your heels?

Lujain - posted on 10/16/2016

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My bf has almost similar story with his stepmother... as long as you keep it within the loving family.. it is fine

Again don't worry about the dust... you can drive his attention to Lick the insoles more..ask him if it is all about dust... what is the point of attractions in licking the shoes... my bf told when he was doing that to his stepmother it was way of showing her his love and care through something he loves to do (no sexual intentions), he used to like her compliments. One time in summer, he asked to her to spend the night in her shoes closet which she accepted..
Have you ever asked whether he likes to be complimented about his work? You need to interact more with him as long it is nonsexual desire

Leo - posted on 10/15/2016

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Dear Supermom, he is almost normal, not an abnormal. ..at first, you must accept that. ..yes, maybe he has got weird feelings or fetish... l know you can't understand or never like that but he is not alone...lots of man and women has same fetish. ..so what will you do with this?
- Accept it all... don't make him sad about his feelings...
- try to keep this activity in family. . Because you and your daughters love him..you are always care about him...the others, foreign ladies or girls will not care about your son...so it can be dangerous sometimes. .. you trample him with care and mercy but the others who is out of family will never care about him...so I congratulate you, you keep this activity in family. ..
-when you accept something in life, means you feel great. You can't fight with life...believe me. ..peace in mind with him and his fetish. ..as l said earlier, you can't stop it...
At last l am sory for my english... l try to improve it perfect. ......
I feel that have to say big "Thank you " for you and your son...You both explain myself who l am in my mind....I am very happy to write you against to again. ...

Supermom - posted on 10/15/2016

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Leo I have trampled him very few times only when he asks .I trampled him with heels not full weight only one foot on him .No I don't like it at all .But the problem is he likes it so I have no other choice

Supermom - posted on 10/15/2016

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Lujan no I don't give much attention now he himself asks that he wants to lick heels .I never tell him to lick my heels .He is my son not slave whenever he wants to lick heels he licks it .No one orders him to do anything .I neither compliment nor do I complain .I don't give much attention only if he is licking lot of dirt from my heels then I tell him to leave that area of heel that's it

Christheman - posted on 10/10/2016

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hello supermom! Firstly, I wanna just say that you are truly a supermom , raising and dealing with three teens alone! lol . secondly, your son is truly lucky to have an understanding thoughtful mom like you , you are truly a phenomenal woman , you didn't just shout at him or even ignore the issue , you actually tried to help. Moreover , I read down the comments you've said "is it okay that I keep letting him lick my heels and your daughters' ?" well would you prefer he does that outside home with strangers??? cuz if you stopped all that he will go looking for pleasure outside and if you're worried about him for sanitary purposes , god knows what the other women's shoes that he would try to lick have on , so don't stop it at least for now, in fact, ask him what also he would like to do. In addition, try to make him want other things , try hugging him , not just you , your daughters also *not for sexual purposes ofcourse* , just try to show him that there is more for him than just shoes . Also, try making him dance with other girls from his age, girls from the family , or you can take him to dancing classes where he can dance with other girls , or even his sisters...and please always support him, don't make him feel different, love your son the way he is , don't give up on him , parents live and die for their children . I hope you find this helpful , and please keep us updated...goodluck

Lujain - posted on 10/08/2016

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You don't need to worry about dust. It's totally fine.
Some questions
how the whole process happens? Do you ask to clean your shoes? How do you ask him? Do you give him attention while he licks your shoes? Do you compliment on his work (what do u tell him)? Do you complain if he didn't do well?

Leo - posted on 10/08/2016

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May l ask, how do you trample him? With all weight walking all over him? With heels or not, and how is your feelings at that time? You said before you don't like it but have any pleasure about all?

Supermom - posted on 10/08/2016

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Leo I am sorry I didn't get your message in message box you can write it here

Supermom - posted on 10/08/2016

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Well Lujain he licks my shoes before I go to office and after I return from office .But the frequency of him licking my heels after office is more as compared to before office .Earlier he used to lick my heels without my presence but now it's both he licks it even when I am wearing my heels I find that really awkward .As for socks He sometimes smells the socks of my youngest daughter .As she only wears socks mostly for her school .Well I will surely keep my heels dry that's a nice advice .But what about dust ? You know some dust still sticks on the sole no matter how much you try to clean it .Is that dust ok ?

Leo - posted on 10/07/2016

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Well, Supermom. ..l felt strongly senses all about since my childhood. .. I tried to change, asked myself why? But l found any answer...so yes lts very humiliated. .to licking soles and trampling...but l feel very extremely happiness when I did all...but for a long time ago. ...now l need it strongly. ..hummiliate is also very big happiness ...l find myself under heels or while licking them...it's not a simple fantasy , a kind of life style...l understood him well...l explained more in your message box, please check it. ..
I feel the best when l am down, l red your message against to again and find myself on there....

Lujain - posted on 10/07/2016

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Don't worry, just make sure that your shoes are dry and your last steps are on dry land. You can sanitize your shoes at your doorsteps (before you enter use antibacterial gel for the sole), if you feet don't suffer from any serious fangile issues (let him enjoy the inside).

my bf had developed foot fetish from his childhood (from his stepmother as his mom passed away when he was 4 yrs old)... if you want to know more about this, I need to ask his permission or I might let you contact him, he is really helpful and works as a life couch

Supermom - posted on 10/07/2016

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Well Leo Hydin I want to ask you don't you find it humiliating when you are licking woman 's heels ?.Why do you consider yourself to be under someone's shoe ?I don't like my son licking my heels but since he enjoys it so much so I am helpless .

Supermom - posted on 10/07/2016

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I don't understand how come people enjoy licking someone's heels or shoes .I don't understand even my son said he just enjoys and likes it very much .How come his tongue doesn't sense that he is eating dirt of someone's shoe .He doesn't like eating junk food but he likes eating the dirt of my heels .I can't even imagine someone doing that and here I find adult men licking heels .This is really weird .I can't even imagine licking my heels myself .They are so dirty when you come after work .The soles of heels are full of dirt ,dust dirty empty wrappers stickers on then etc

Supermom - posted on 10/07/2016

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By the way Lujain your bf licks your heels ?that also from past 4 years .So doesn't he feel humiliated lying under and licking your heels .Also I want to ask how do you feel when you see your bf licking your heels

Supermom - posted on 10/07/2016

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Hi Lujain no I won't say I am enjoying it .But my son is surely enjoying he is very happy he listens to everything I say he gets good marks ,good in sports .As I said earlier it feels awkward to see your own son licking your heels .Although he may enjoy it but I am stuck in a dilemma .My daughters are fine they consider it as a routine thing .But the dirt which goes into his stomach from my heels won't it have any bad effect on his health .Ok I agree it may improve his immunity but you said that he may fall sick ,this thing worries me .He has been licking my heels from past 7-8 months .It has become a routine thing now .The dirt from my and my daughters heels going into his stomach worries me now .Rest all is same he demands for trampling sometime which I do and otherwise it's fine .But I don't want him to ever do such thing in public even by mistake

Lujain - posted on 10/07/2016

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How long has been licking your shoes? BTW I am a doctor, the immunity of human bodies are quite different, but being subjected directly to dirt might have good and bad effects... for long term shoe licking, your kid's immunity will become stronger against dirt germs.. but the risk of getting sick is there..mostly nothing serious.. My bf has been doing this for 4 years now and rarely had any health complains... So, if it is about his health.. don't worry.

it seems that you and your daughters are enjoying this as well. and you are seeking social acceptance right??

Scott - posted on 07/06/2016

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I say no, it's not Ok as someone who has experience since 1962.
And the reason is because of the possible severe psychological damage in later years to him with these early experiences. The last thing you want is for him to get addicted to your feet and that's where all of this may end up if not careful.

There is a book that might help, it's called The Sexual Life Of The Foot And Shoe.

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53291...

Supermom - posted on 07/06/2016

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Thank you Scott for your advice I will try but till then should I allow him to lick my heels ? Is it ok?

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