my son is 3 in a couple of weeks and still wont use a potty, any tips?

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Ruthie - posted on 06/05/2009

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Im not there yet but my friends son was about 3 and not potty trained yet.. she said he was a bit shy and he didnt like to pee in public.... (like in the LR) so finally she made him run around with NOTHING on and when he had to go he knew he had to go to the potty because she had tried and tried to potty train when he was younger. after that one day he had a few accidents but overall it worked!

Martha - posted on 06/05/2009

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I used a non conventional trick, but it worked with my son. At the age of 2 ½ he was fully trained.

While I was home over the weekend I left him only in underwear, no diaper. explained that he has to let me know when he needed to go to the bathroom. Well he has to do number one, and didn’t tell me. What I did, I left him with the wet underwear for 2 minutes, he was crying that he was wet, to please change his underwear, and I told him that we had agreed that when he has to go to the bathroom he was supposed to let me know. Well it did worked.

Do not worried it won’t hurt him, and I promise you that it would work.

Diane - posted on 06/04/2009

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I don't know of any children that do not end up figuring this out-I got the best advice when my son was young from my pediatrician. He said, you do not have control of his body-he does-there is no such thing as training-when they are ready-they are ready-so I suggest to stop, and then your son will just do it on his own- Certainly will end your worries-Don't know of any children graduating pre-school still wearing diapers!

Julianne - posted on 06/04/2009

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Here is a trick my mom used with a child of the same age she use to babysit. My mother use to have the toilet paper roll sitting on the edge of the tub. We didn't have a holder for it. She would put one of those fisher price people inside the roll. Every time Chris went to the bathroom he would lift up the roll to get toilet paper and be rewarded with a toy, which encouraged him to go. He was eager to see what prize he would get next. You could probably use anything as a prize, as long as it is safe and not a chocking hazzard and will fit inside a toilet paper roll or a container that you can't see through will probably work as well. You need to turn potty time into fun time. Of course the more you make a big celebration of the child going to the bathroom the better. I use to clap and praise my kid big time and tell him what a big boy he was. Good luck.

Reyna - posted on 06/04/2009

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i tired two things that worked together! i used stickers everytime she used the potty she got a sticker, then after 2 weeks of consistent pottying in she knew she would get a POTTY PARTY! it worked great. i made a simple cake from home and invited grandmas over to celebrate. she thought i was awsome.. she knew she was a big girl then so she continued to use the potty from then. u should try it, it might work for you!

Susan - posted on 06/03/2009

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Hi! Do you have any girlfriends or parents? This is what I did. My step-daughter was struggling with her daughter. I went to her house and picked her up to stay at my house for 3 days. The first day I took her to the potty several times and nothing. I would sit with her and tell her what a good girl she was and that I was so proud of her going to the potty. Finally, later in the day she started to tell me she had to go potty. Then I told her that when she started going to the potty we would go to the store so she could pick out 'big girl' panties. We went shopping and I let her pick out any kind she wanted (one package). I let her try them on, but would not let her keep them on. I told her as soon as she started going to the potty on her own she could wear them all the time. Well, second day she was taking me to the potty and showing me that she could use the potty. By the third day she did stop the diaper and used the potty. I put the panties on her and took pictures to send to her mother via my cell phone. It's so cute, she had her arms up in the air and was saying "I did it!" She's had a few accidents over the next few weeks, but she had never been closer than this and so it was an accomplishment. She was awarded new panties for every week that she stayed dry and allowed to pick them out. That seemed to be a good incentive. Oh, and help them out by not giving them liquids before they go to bed, stop about an hour before they go to bed. Good Luck! (The children seem to do better for others, since they want them to like them and want to make others happy.)

Stacey - posted on 06/03/2009

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Make it fun!
Surround him with toys, feed him on the potty, etc. When you go, take the potty in the bathroom with you so they can start relating the concept.
Lots of praise, and be consistent, that's most important. My Mom did it with 8 and we were all potty trained before 2, if not earlier. You can do it!

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thank you to everyone, all that information was really helpful. ill give it a go. he has to be fully toilet trained for nursery in september.

Taheerah - posted on 06/02/2009

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I had the same concern with my son when he was 2 getting ready to turn 3. My son was also starting at a new daycare so even though he was 3 he was placed with the 2 yr olds until he was completely potty trained. The best thing that seemed to work was consistency. It was almost the military for potty training. They took him to the bathroom every 20 minutes throughout the whole day. They were also good with communicating with me and letting me know his progress after each trip to the potty. I also had to make sure I was consistent at home as well...To wrap it all up I would say it all boils down to consistency.

Tara - posted on 06/02/2009

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As a preschool teacher for more than 15 years I can say that the best remedy for a child who is potty training is consistence. you have to be consistant with your child everyday all day. once you decide to train your child for the potty you must continue. A lot of parents like to ask their child's caregiver or nanny to start them to potty training, but if you as the child's parents are not continuing a potty training schedule with them at home, it will take a long time before you see any results. especially a boy. start a schedule with ur child and stay consistant with it and you will see results

Stacee - posted on 06/02/2009

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I was finally able to get my first son to use the potty by giving him stickers, making a big deal about using the potty, claps and horray's, and asking a guy-friend to take my sons to the bathroom with him. It helped to see a big-boy go pee-pee in the potty.

My second son was stubborn. We used stickers, but that only worked for a while. I then started using mini Reece cups for him going pee in the potty and Dum-Dum suckers for when he pooped. He loves candy and loves suckers more than chocolate.

I had the daycare worker help me out by putting them on the potty for like 10min at a time several times throughout the day. At home, we kept them on a potty schedule... before leaving the house, a half hour after eating, before going to bed, first thing in the morning. I think keeping kids on a consistent schedule really helps. Since most kids have a set wake up time, eating times and sleeping times, it just seemed easy to make their bathroom time routine as well. I put my boys in the pull-ups and told them they were for big boys only. Babies used diapers. It became a bit of a manipulative tool to encourage them to be more responsible... just like the candy.

When they had a good day of using the potty (or trying to get to the potty as sometimes they didn't quite get all their clothes off in time), they earned a sticker. We put it on a chart. If they had a star all week, then we would do something special... like going to the park with a friend, having an overnight with a friend, going to Chuck E Cheese, bowling, a game room like Tokens and Tickets, Putt-Putt, the zoo, etc.

Something that helps to keep them from wetting the bed is cutting off liquids about 2 hours before bedtime. I don't let my little ones have drinks (or snacks with a lot of moisture in them) after 8pm. We usually head upstairs around 8:30-9pm. We get our clothes out for the next day, take baths, brush teeth, go potty, etc. By 9-9:30pm, we are reading stories. On non-bath days, we read more stories. On days that they are good with whatever we are working on like potty training or behaving well, they get an extra story.

I get extra books from the library, go garage sale-ing and buy books from the school for cheap reading material.

Shelly - posted on 06/02/2009

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I know this won't be what you want to hear, but children use the potty when they are ready. Making it fun is helpful or a reward system. Like stickers or something small he likes. For my daughter, at bathtime, we'd have her sit on it with the top down and eventually with the top up and one day when she was a little over 3, right after my son was born, she decided she wanted to be a big girl. My son however, he liked it from a young age but wasn't completely potty trained until he was well over 4. I hope this was a little helpful.

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