My son is inappropriately staring at my feet?

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I'm a single mom, raising two daughters and a son. My son is 15 years old, he's an athletic, obedient and talented kid. However, since he was about 10, I have noticed that he would often look down at my feet when I'd walk passed or something. I love being barefoot or wear flip flops/sandals at home. I do work a lot, so when I get home I just lay down on the couch, take off my shoes and socks to feel the cool air touch my feet. I do this a lot and have noticed that my son would walk around or would sit down across from me while using his phone and peeking at my feet. Recently, he's been getting into my room and has been smelling my feet. I can hear him breathing and feel him lightly touching my feet with his nose. I wanted to scream! However, I don't want to catch him in the act because I feel like it'll mess things up. One time when I drank a glass of wine, I guess he assumed I was drunk and kissed my foot!! I felt it and slowly got up but he quickly left. I started locking my door, and I drink in my room with the door locked because I don't even want to know what he'd do. I now keep my socks on a lot too. Should I talk to him about it? What should I do to help him? Should I just not mention it at all? He's a teen, and I know he's thinking of all sorts of stuff. I don't want to make him feel ashamed, but I also want to keep my daughters out of this, since I probably think he'd do the same with them.

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Alexus - posted on 07/04/2016

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my sons likes my feet a lot and they are just my feet so I just let him have his "fun." Its 2016, come on, you are over thinking this! He likes your feet, that psychologically means he worships with dirt you walk on to the point he would lick them. Hmm, can you say
"do your chores dear" in heels? No biggie.

A - posted on 02/13/2016

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Wow. Why is it that you are afraid to confront him? no parents to feel like he or she should have to lock their door in fear that their child will touch them inappropriately. also, if he is willing to be inappropriate with you I hate to say it but it makes sense that you are concerned about what he may do with your daughters. this is something that a professional needs to deal with. I don't believe very many of us in here are herapists. also, for now I would say that you need to quit drinking alcohol because he seems to see this as something that makes you vulnerable and that is not a good thing. I am NOT saying that you have a problem with drinking, but that if you feel more vulnerable doing that to where you have to lock your bedroom door, then maybe you need to put it away for now.if I were you, I would talk to the school guidance counselor or your religious leader if you have one and ask about a therapist for your son. You do not have to give the detail, just that you really feel he would benefit from therapy and that you would like the name of somebody who specializes with young men. hopefully, you have some type of insurance that covers this. I am sure that you can tell the therapist in person or over the phone your concern so that they can take it from there and decide whether you can have sections together or separately. They can also advise you on what to do if they feel your daughters may be unsafe. I truly wish you well.

Melissa - posted on 02/11/2016

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I have no problem with my son having a girlfriend but I don't think I should try to arrange one for him. I have already decided to talk to him about having a foot fetish also. I do talk to my son about important things he should be ready for. I also do not plan on sleeping with my son at all, neither will he even try that to me

Wasi - posted on 02/12/2016

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well, its f good decision , ,i think ur case and my case is same, i agree foot fetish,but this fetish can increases day by day if ur son remain close to you, because my son spend time in my room like watching tv or stdy or formal talking with me in free time, before i not notice, i hv good big breast and perfect shaped body,,he buy dress for me and request me to use it infront of him,sometimes when he sad i hug him,but he press his mouth and hand on my breast,and sometimes when i lay he sit beside with me and he told me he is sad upset when i ask reason, he just told the reason of stdy and he again keep his face on my breast and pressed it,i not stoped him, so i start feel it that he has breast fetish and need girlfrnd,,so i talk her on this serious topic and told him that he should make girlfrnd,and he can make make relation with him,,so now he spend mch time with his gf and he told me all things that he start likng my body,but i encourge him,so,its time its good foot fetish for mom,but males only need soft signle to be turn on,remember it

Wasi - posted on 02/09/2016

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iewell, its seems your son need girlfrnd,arrange gf for him, and second,sometimes sit son beside you and talk him generally and first talk hmm about life ,study and then slowly slowly come to point and say him to that u should keep some girlfriend,if he is single, because in future he will wish to sleep with you,so any thing happens like this, try to overcome it

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Cindy - posted on 11/03/2016

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Hey Melissa could you give an update as to what's been happening, seeing you posted this back in February?

April - posted on 04/09/2016

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If you don't mind me asking what did he do For you to talk to him about his fetish

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2016

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"However, I don't want to catch him in the act because I feel like it'll mess things up."

Seriously? You aren't confronting him out of fear? That is the most absurd thing I have heard today! Tell him to not touch your feet, end of story. You don't need t oinvolve his siblings, tell him to knock it off.

Wasi- you are perverted in you sexual opinions, if he has a foot fetish and doesn't have a girlfriend, he will want to commit incest? You suggest you arrange a GF for him? Like a prostitute? Gross

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2016

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You shouldn't ever let your son touch you inappropriately like that. There are boundaries that a child shouldn't cross. Just because he likes breasts in general doesn't give him the right to do something like that. I have already talked to my son about his fetish and he did feel bad and promised to not do anything like he did again. Me and my son are close but I wouldn't let him do anything thats completely wrong. I also wouldn't want my son to try and do what he wants to a girl his age

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