My sons father wants to be my friend, but....

Melissa - posted on 03/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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He doesn't want to know anything about his child. Just a little background, he's not on the birth certificate, has not tried to help in any way, and he told me he doesn't want me trapping him, to sum it up. What is a great way to tell him to get lost without being immature about it?

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Luvmia - posted on 03/15/2012

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Waverlys Mom, what you do is pray about it because God sees all. Some of these men are some peace of work. Usually when they are trying to befriend the child's mother, they are trying to get sexual benefits. One thing is for sure is that a lot of men feel as though once mine is always mine. Whatever!

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Waverlys_Mom - posted on 03/15/2012

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omg i am so right there with u my daughters five and her dad loves me and not her and he sees and talks to me and i feel the same im just over it not mad or hurt or anything. but im scared when i cut that contact he will go for visitation and i cant allow that cause i know she wouldnt b safe in his care but i cant prove that. so whatdya do...

Melissa - posted on 03/10/2012

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Thank you ladies. He has known about our child for a long time. And if he hasn't tried to do anything for our son now (who is 6) I know he won't. Thankfully I don't have the dilusion that he ever will or one day call me up and tell me he wants to get to know him. After he said this to me, I got the closure I needed. I just don't want to be immature about anything or say something that could come back to bite me later on. But I have no problems kicking him to the curb. Also I'm not mad, hurt, sad or anything. I'm just done with his games and over him completely.



Luvmia, you're right. He is the textbook narcissist (sad to say)

Sandy - posted on 03/10/2012

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Do you think by being his friend he will eventually warm up to his child? I wouldn't bet on it. I'd tell him to hit the road, if he doesn't acknowledge his own kid, I wouldn't want anything to do with him period.

Luvmia - posted on 03/10/2012

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Personally I would ignore the jackass. He is a waste of time and energy. I just don't understand why he wants to be your friend when he has did everything to make himself an enemy. Maybe he needs some psychotherapy to deal with his personality disorder.

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