Need advice...should the uninvolved father go on the birth certificate

Melissa - posted on 08/19/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am currently pregnant with twins due in about a week. The father of them and I called it quits in February. This is the third time we've called it quits in 5 years. We have one son together already, but doesn't have any involvement in his life either. He is on his birth certificate becasue he was there for the birth. The currentl pregnancy he's had no involvment in at all. Has never called to see what the genders are or to see how our oldest son is. The last text I got from him was to leave him alone. My question is should I put him on the bc?
Thanks.

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Tarniah - posted on 08/21/2011

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Sounds so familiar :( I am going through the exact same thing. I have chosen not to put my babys fathers name on the birth certificate. Leopards don't change their spots. My sister went through something similar years ago but she put her ex on her children's birth certificates, now she is getting married to a wonderful man who wants to adopt her kids but her ex won't sign them over even though he has nothing to do with them... even if you decide to add him later, that is up to you. but while you are undecided, i say don't put him on there..

Mimi - posted on 08/21/2011

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To clarify- the name can be added to the birth cert if he doesn't sign it at the hospital but you need the affidavit.

Mimi - posted on 08/21/2011

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Yes! What if he dies or ends up on disability? You want your child to be protected or able to receive any money owed to them. Here in Michigan if you are not married you are given a affidavit of parentage. I made the mistake of wavering after her birth and it cost me $40 and a lot of headache to go back and get his name on there.

Stacy - posted on 08/19/2011

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In my state (Oregon), if the parents are married, the father goes on the BC. If the parents are not married, then both parties have to sign a notarized paternity affidavit before the father can sign the BC. If the father is not around, or will not sign the affidavit, then the mother is the only one on the BC.

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