Nichole - posted on 06/06/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hi my names nichole im 23 and my son dominiq will be 1 on thursday June 10.....Me and my bf have been together for 4 years we live together with my grandparents....We have never had a "healthy" relationship we have major issues with trust(hes cheated a few times...that i know of im sure its been more times) anyway weve been fighting alot and sometimes its been infront of the baby and he gets scared and cries i tell my bf to calm down not to yell infront of baby he doesnt care.... Hes not helping out financially at all back in september he moved out for 6 months and when he did i started getting assistance from the state to help pay 4 daycare and things bc he wont pay childsupport....hes pissed he donest think he needs 2 pay bc his mom buys diapers and wipes for the baby he dosnt understand theres alot more to it than diapers and wipes..hes good with the baby he plays with him but he has no patience for him at all he yells at him and doesnt get it that hes a baby! He started working about a month ago, still not paying any child support so i asked him if he could split the cost of swimming lessons with me and he said "maybe if i have the mloney" that really pissed me off bc he has the money anyway that day he came home with tints on his car windows($300) the next day bought a new cell phone ($175) so now im livid his son is supposed to come b4 anything he wants for himself..he didnt NEED to get either one...anyway im on a waiting list for a nice apartment complex we were supposed 2 move into together but bc of the way hes acting now i didnt put him on the application,just my son and I . The problem is I dont want him living here at my grandparents house anymore but the problem is if he leaves here he doesnt have anywhere to go and he will lose his job bc he doesnt have a license(he works with my stepdad and he picks him up n drops him off everyhday) another reason i was so pissed about the car windowns cuz he cant even drive the damn thing!! And everyones like who cares thats his problem wich is tru and its not like any of his money from working is going to his son...So really im not sure what im asking exactly i just need some advice what all you mothers think i should do.....i know i need to leave him i know thats whats best for the baby but im honestly scared to be a single mom and i know i cant be sellfish like that but i dont know what to do....please help me!!