MordSith - posted on 02/16/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My son's father and I never dated. We were friends who hooked up once and a while and things got bad one night and that resulted in our son. From the get go he and his family never wanted anything to do with us. I was alone the entire time I was pregnant. When we did talk it always resulted in a huge fight to the point he and all of his friends were blocked.
My son is almost two and we're a bit more civil to each other. I have no desire to have him in my life and to try to create a "family". We have both expressed we wish we were closer as friends, but I think we are too damaged. At this point I've gotten more involved with my church while he's atheist. That has created a bigger rift because he's refusing to come to my son's dedication. I understand where he's coming from but at the same time it's disappointing.
Since we never dated it feels like we don't have a connection most separate parents have. I don't know if I should suck it up and follow the instinct to try to be friends or to be cautious and not get involved so he doesn't hurt me and my son again.