Melissa - posted on 07/30/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
My ex and I have been divorced for two years but have not lived together for five. We had two kids together our son is 10 and our daughter is 6. He got remarried this year and his new wife had a baby with him this year as well. My son has not liked his new step mother and from what I can tell with good reason. When the divorced was going on his new girlfriend at the time was told my daughter that someone had touched her in the NO NO place(she said my daughter told her this.My daughter was 4). The girlfriend took my daughter to the ER and had the police there to try to get her taken out of my care. The girlfriend told me that my son did it. I was on fire with reage. I wanted to have the girlfriend taken to the looney bin. I knew she was crazy to think that my son who I have known my whole life would never have done something like that. This woman did not know my kids. I was right the rape kit was done and nothing was shown as she said had happened. The police let me take my daughter and son home. I told myself that I would make sure she was never see to my kids again. I was worng. He married the witch and had a child with her. The court seen it my way that he had tried to take my daughter from me to lower the child support order. By taking one of the kids he would not have to pay any support.That was what he was hopeing for. Bit him back had to pay even more than what was dissuced by the lawers.
After the child support was in place he filed to have it lowered. Me like a dumb ass I did lower it for him because he gave me the sad story that he would lose his house and girlfriend if he had to keep paying the amount set. I had a good job at the time did not see why I couldn't been nice for one last time. I still can not forgive his wife for she did.
Now that they have new baby they have been seeing less of the kids. He called me after the baby was born to tell me that he had to cancel his weekend visit because she said she COULD NOT WATCH THEM AND THE NEW BABY at the same time. Its not like my kids are babies too. They are 10 and 6. If any thing they can help out with anything needed. Their father called me asking if he could make up his visit. I said yes. He asked on monday if he could pick them up on tuesday and bring them home on thursday. I said we have a baseball game that day and he would have to met us there. I called him tuesday to let him know what field we where on and he told me that he FORGOT. In less than 24 hours he forgot about his kids and picking them up. I told him that I would not tell his kids for him and that he needed to tell them him self. He never called to talk with the kids. After the game was over my son asked where his father was. And I had to brake the bad news that his father forgot about seeing them and his game (Their father did not come to one game the whole season). Their new sister was 21 days old before they got to met her. He only has the kids every other weekend with them. He really could care less how I feel about the way he treats his kids. My son doesn't ever really want to see him or spend time with him. I can't blame him. I want the court to take away his rights forevery thing he has put these kids thur.But they won't until there is blood shed in a matter of speaking.
I mean how can he forget his kids. I have never forgotten my kids. I am in school and have late classes and still I have not forgotten my kids they are on mind all the time.
I have a boyfriend now and we have been together for sometime now. He loves my kids we have even gone family trips together. The last one was Disney World in Florda. My ex has not taken my kids any where with his new wife. I know she doesn't like my kids. She wants to start a new family that is unbroken and leave the broken parts behind. My new boyfriend tries to make up for the parts that are missing in my little family. He loves my kids there is not dout about it. He has told me that my daughter is by his side all the time when he is doing work around the house. Wanting to help every step of the way. My son is into video games and so does my boyfriend, they have that incommon. They play games and talk about the new games coming out.
So my question is this after reading my story do you think I have the right to try to gain full custody?
Right now I have full physical custody with joint custody. He gets the kids every other weekend and that is it. Share hoildays but even that he some times blows off if him and his wife are planing a trip out of town. I would like to see him out of our lives for good just so we can get rid of the drama. My kids have the right to be happy.
Please give me some help on this one don't know what to do about this. Thanks