Iysha - posted on 02/03/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
I had been in a relationship wth my daughter's father for 3 years. She is 19 months old. He has continually shown me that he can not be counted on to do the bare minimum of budget money and just be a "normal," law abiding citizen...He has completely drained me dry...our once 3,000+ monthly income was spent on his drug use. He became addicted to Heroin a month after our daughter was born because he "couldnt handle her being in the hospital," she was a preemie and was in the hospital after birth for 17 days. Before then, he was an alcoholic that used to get angry and accuse me of cheating on him when I was working and going to school and even when I was pregnant, he continually said the baby was not his because I was a whore and I should get an abortion...He would get so mad, he would hit me, rip off my clothing and poor beer on me. His reasoning was that He was drnk and it was okay because he didnt mean to do those things...mind you, I was his pregnant girlfriend. When I was in the hospital for 2 wweks for preterm labor, he wass there to visit once and spent the night with me once but was going oin and out of the hospital to buy alcohol. When our daughter was born, he was there but that night, he left and didnt come back until the next day. He had been in "recovery" and on Methadone treatment for his Drug use and recently relapsed and got right back onto his treatment. I have started school again and he is now with his mom 3 hours away.
I feel like I should get full custody of our daughter and know I would get it since he is a registered sex offender, has a felony, a DUI (his felony was also because he was drunk) and has been arrested several times in the past years..the most recent being 2 weeks ago for a warrent for not signing up for DUI classes and for theft. I have no proof that he was abusive. My question is: Should I submit a request for Full Custody of my daughter? To me, it seems kind of cruel since he has never actually hurt her and is completely in love with her. When he was home, it isnt like he wouldnt take care of her but he was hardly ever home. Are his arrests even enough to tske his parental rights away? or doesn he have to actually hurt my daughter?