Meghan - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have a 16 1/2 month old son. He was 8 1/2 months when I was told to leave and in that 8 1/2 months my ex was a very absent father and very mentally abusive and controling to me. His father lives 3 hours away and he wants me to drive him twice a month to his house (which isn't babyprrofed and our son wouldn't have his own room) however it is court ordered that he has to drive to our place to have visitation. (I know this is costly for him but my financial means are A LOT less than his) Now I even have issues with our son spending nites with him here and the courts haven't ordered any set visitation. My ex refuses to follow the schedule I plan (bedtime, snack times etc) because he wants to spend as much play time with him. He returns him un napped, un changed, in dirty clothes, doesn't eat any of the food I pack for him. He argues about little things such as how many bottles our son should have, what time he should be napping etc. My son comes home angery, agressive, constipated and wakes with nite terrors the first 2 nites he is back. I don't want to keep my son away from his father but I really don't think I should give in because I don't feel my son is ready..what would you ladies do?