Pregnant and alone

Lisa - posted on 08/27/2012

its nice to see that someone is just in the same position as me and it must have been hard i know its hard for me but, i guess there are so many moms that are in the same position

Liz - posted on 09/30/2009

hi rikki,
i had a 5yr old and found myself pregant & suddenly on my own too. i was scared also....but i did it. you have to do it .... so you do! you will be amazed where your strength will come from! my kids are now 9 & 4 .... i look at them and i'm in awe of them.
call on your family, call on your friends.....the hardest thing for me, at the time, was asking for help! but it's what helped me through some really tough times. it will be hard, but you will make it through!!!
dont' forget to make special dates with your older child - just you and him! he/she will adore that one on one time with you!
good luck! and there are a TON of mom's here ready & willing to support you!!!

Denise - posted on 09/29/2009

PRAYER WORKS WONDERS! I am a single mom with my first and only child...by choice..at the age of 43, but I am having the time of my life and I know with God's help, me and my daughter will be just fine!

Nicole - posted on 09/29/2009

My mom raised me and my sister alone and we are fine and now I am raising a 7 month old baby by myself and I am only 19. I have faith in you because if me and a hundred other women out there can do it so can you! You will have you bad times and you will have your excellent times and take from them what you want but always remember that you will have your babys at the end of the day no matter what!

Gabby - posted on 09/29/2009

You won't failure! You already did it (and are doing it) with your 5 year old! It will get hard at times, but when they grow up, you will be extremely happy to see how you raised, and all by yourself! And all the great work you did! Don't worry! You will do just fine!

Judith - posted on 09/29/2009

i am raising my daughter alone its hard yes but it takes a woman to stand up and say NO am a brilliant mum and am going to do the best for my kids ,am not going to let some man ruin my childrens life . am sure your a amazing mum just keep up the hard work love and it will pay off in years to come big hugs xx

Tori - posted on 09/28/2009

hun you seem like you are a strong woman! you will be fine and i promise someone will come into your life! and you will never be a failure!

Nina - posted on 09/28/2009

I felt the same way before I gave birth to my second son! I thought my god how will I do this? But in may when Liam was born it just somehow all fell into place. Ofcourse my oldest is 8yrs old so he understands a bit more, but they all love their baby when it gets here. And a second one isn't anymore difficult then one. Just remember god never gives you more than you can handle. My oldest is ADHD so I was blessed this time with easiest most content baby I have ever seen. I pray god blesses you the same as well. And just remember you can always vent here!

Rikki - posted on 09/28/2009

Thank you everyone that takes their time to reply to my post

Rikki - posted on 09/28/2009

Tara :) Thank you for the straight forward advice from one who knows every word means alot. I wont fail i cant. i am actually a very determine person but i worry all the time. i doubt myself all the time and i wish i could think only positive. . . . .

Tara - posted on 09/15/2009

You are not gonna be a failure. I have three children and so much baby daddy baby mama drama stories that i can write a book. like i said i am alone with the three of my children i have beena single mom off and on for 13 years now and I make things happen and that is what you have to do you have to make it happen....everything you want you shall get for yourself and those kids because you will make it happen. be strong only the weak fail....you are gonna do this with faith and you are gonna be brave. iwhat you want you will work for and go get, no excuses because if there is a will there is always a way....dont be a punk.....good luck

Ashley - posted on 09/14/2009

If you raised one then u can definetly raise another one. It sounds like you are a great mother. Dont let anyone get you down. U can do it. Just believe in yourself

Diane - posted on 09/14/2009

hi rikki! im a single mother of 4 kids. if this is your second child, you can defintely do it the second time. ive done it a lot of times but hey still going strong.just think of your kids as your purpose in life and youll get through it day by day...thats what i did...we are all here members of this community to support you:) and will surely be proud of you if youll reply to this message one day that you did it...

Pauline - posted on 09/13/2009

You are brilliant for raising one on your own for 5 years already! Just trust yourself to do the same with the next one. Keep working hard the same way and pray for God's strength in your life. Everything happens for a reason, one day soon you will see the benefits and will be fine. Keep it up hun!

Michelle - posted on 09/12/2009

Don't worry you are doing an awesome job! Being a single mom is hard work! You have had 5 yrs worth of experience. You constantly feel like you never have any answers. My relationship with God, and the people he has placed in me and my son's life, helps us get through, day by day. Each day has it's new blessings and challenges! I wouldn't trade it for anything! Praying for strength and wisdom for you!

Letitia - posted on 09/12/2009

I found out i was pregnant a week after splitting from my partner, he is constantly changing his mind about being involved or not. I also have a 7 year old son who i have raised on my own since he was 13 months old, I too and very scared about the future but know that i have great family and friends for support..If you can raise 1 on your own you can raise 2, i think its just a matter of getting organised and in a routine as quickly as possible, well thats what i plan on doing..lol..It does seem very very daunting at the moment but im sure you will be fine, as least we know what to expect this time round..

Marrion - posted on 09/12/2009

Hey hon! I sure hope you have a prayer life whatever yoour faith may be. Bein pregnant and alone is one of the worst feelings. It's a VERY lonely place. It will be rough but you can do it. Sometime only children get away with way too much. I know I've been there. My oldest is 9 and the next is 3. to make things simple for now start gaining more control of the 5 year old. Have a set bed time ( you will need it) and follow through. He or she should sleep in his or her own bed... and thing of that nature. It is normal to be scared. But you can do it. DON'T FORGET TO TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.

Rikki - posted on 09/11/2009

I do i have friends and family and i came on here for extra support!! i reallly need it i suffer from depresion and anxiety and things have been costantly crazy. Im up and down and happy and sad. So i came on here to keep a positive attitude. I know its the internet but you guys help me alot. RReading these everyday make me feel better. I have more faith in myself and more secure knowing there are people out there that can relate and be there for encouraging words! :) Thank you

Cherie A - posted on 09/11/2009

dont worry you will not be afailure you are a good mommy to your 5 year old and your gonna be a good mom to your newborn. My baby is about 4 months now and i went through my whole pregnancy alone. it was hard yeah i must admit, but as long as you have a good support system like friends and family you are going to be fine. when you smile are your new baby and he/she looks back at you it gives you this really good feeling everything is going to be ok

Rikki - posted on 09/11/2009

Thank you for all that responded! it helps it really does and im blessed to have you guys post to me and tell me that i can do it! I need to hear it and i love the fact that people can relate. It feels so wonderful for all that take the time to write! Thank you so much everyone!! God bless you all!!! im 15 weeks and at the end of this month i get an ultra sound!!! i will find out if it is aboy or a girl! see right now i am happy and than other days i'll just be depressed and worried! being worried is what i am good at!!!

Rikki - posted on 09/11/2009

Emily

THe guys that get us pregnant and leave are just sperm donors! The thing though i have learned with my 5 year old is that rising them alone is alot eaier than trying to be with the dad and and raising the child. I went through that for 2 months i left the dad when my son was 2 months old, He was doing drugs and sleeping all the time and going out to "party" and cheating on me. i ralized i couldnt do it i wasnt focused on my son. i was why depressed cuz of the dad and i wasnt able to treat my son the way he needed me by being there with the dad!!!!

Erika - posted on 09/10/2009

when i got pregnant i was a wild recently turned 20 year old party animal. a baby was the farthest thing from my mind and i never wanted children. i was in a horrible car accident where my best friend almost died in my arms. she will never b okay and i have emense guilt. this lead to me being severly depressed and just wanting to die and i was slowly killing myself with my wild ways. then for sum crazy reason god blessed me with my daughter! her sperm donor and i slept together once. i'm not proud of how i got my daughter but i know now that god had a bigger plan for me. olivias father, when i told him, told me to get an abortion and to never call him and he wouldn't b apart of our lives. it totally crushed me and truelly made me resent the fact that i was so stupid to get pregnant! i resented the fact that while i was home pregnant with his child he was out drinking and sleeping with girls that i attended cosmetology school with! i was a very self centered person before i got pregnant. i knew and know right from wrong but i chose the easier thing before. now that i have my daughter there are a lot of days that yeah it is hard being a parent but the way they look at you and cuddle and think of how much fun it will be when the baby is bigger that all 3 of you can just cuddle in your bed and watch a movie or decorating your xmas tree! you stressing right now isn't doing you or your baby any good! you are going to be just fine raising your children!! and you wont fail! you cant! as long as you give your children food in their tummys, a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs and all the love you can give them your going to make it!
if you have a good family maybe talk to someone that your close with and confide in them. it really helps to have someone you can sit dwn and vent to... good luck and your going to be fine! everyday is a new day

Jessann - posted on 09/09/2009

The fact that you are concerned and seeking help show me that you are not setting yourself up for failure. I would suggest reaching out to other moms for days where you can have playdates, or even you watch their children a day, and then they will watch yours one out of the week so you can have less stress, so that you do not feel so overwhelmed.

Ginny - posted on 09/09/2009

Hey Rikki. If you've done it once you can do it again! You just have to have faith in yourself and know that you are doing the best you can at all times. I'm in a similar situation so I know that sometimes it's easier said than done but know that you have friends and family in your life that have been there for you and that will still be there for you.

Benita - posted on 09/09/2009

Hello Rikki, I had the same thoughts when i was pregnant with my second chid. It's all about letting the older child help. But im sure u will do fine, just do all the things u did before and it will run so smooth that all ur worries will look so stupid later down the road.

Emily - posted on 09/08/2009

Hey hun! im in the same boat, this is my first baby and im all alone too and it sucks! the father has fallen in love with someone else and doesnt care bout his baby yet!or me and it cuts me up! Why do we have to do this?? It is not fair! The fathers are not men! Sorry your alone, do u have friends and family?

Janine - posted on 09/08/2009

Its normal to be scared, I have two, 10 and 3 year old, things happen in our lives for a reason, what that reason is only time will tell, but we adapt, taking baby steps, we survive, we grow in strength and we remain as strong as the women we were born to be. None of us are failures, its all a learning curve, its just up to us to do our best, to the best of our ability and be the mothers we are. Remain strong, believe in yourself and dont give up hope, you'll be jsut fine!

Elise - posted on 09/06/2009

Hi, i know exactly wat your going thro. My daughter is 10 and my son is now 5 months old. His father left when I was pregnant. It's not easy but you've done it before! Second time around is soooo much easier you sorta know what your in for and you get by. Keep your chin up and try to keep smiling. Those beautiful kids are so worth it.

Mandy - posted on 09/06/2009

You can do it, basically because you have to, You have to be organised, get the eldest off to pre school or school dependson where you live, then time with the baby, and in between all the usual duties of being a mummy. You can do it, I have raised my two boys on my own, you are absolutely not alone here, and on fb you can write here anytime and most probably there will be someone from around the world who is online at the same time, trust in yourself, you did it once before, you can and will do it again. trust me, Ive been there, if it is too much there are email addys below of people whom yo can contact, I dont know, as Im new t this, how to give you my email addy direct.

Rikki - posted on 09/06/2009

Thank you ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Nyaradzoyashe - posted on 09/06/2009

hey Rikki,
if you have raised one to that stage you can raise two. do not worry. the first is the hardest because you are not sure what you are doing. just establish a routine that works for you, and allow yourself a timeout each day. i am am having another baby next month and have a 9yr old. he sleeps at 8pm daily and i will do the same with the baby, that gives me from 8pm to get my time. god has ensured that mothers are able and i am confident you will do it. much love

Ana - posted on 09/06/2009

I am raising a 5 year old and 22 month old baby on my own and believe it is hard but hey no body is perfect you will do fine. Especially because you will try your best.

Tina - posted on 09/06/2009

I am raising three kids on my own. And you wont be a failure. You love your kids and for that reason alone you will do your best. It's all we can do. If my emails are visible please contact me anytime if you need someone to talk to. Or add me as a friend. I know how hard it is to do it alone. But it's what we do to give our kids the best of us.