Amy - posted on 03/14/2017 ( 3 moms have responded )
Long story short, I am separated from the father of my two children who are both under the age of three.
He has a problem with lying, he's a bit narsassistic, and tends to invalidate issues and other people's feelings.
With that being said...
he's paying absolute minimum amounts to support my two children. $200 a month.... and this was temporarily agreed upon in the beginning because honestly I just wanted to make sure he wouldn't fight to have the children. The original agreement was, $200 a month and he would have them over night on his day off every week and on Saturday nights. He's sent long winded texts and conversations about how much he wants to be there for them, always followed by why he's not or hasn't been able to. This past month he only had them for 3 days total. (He works, 6 min down the road with traffick, has no second job, works 9-6, and plays video games constantly). When I confronted him on his lack of involvement with no good excuse, he stepped up and visited them more for a total of one week before going back to his past habits of seeing them maybe once every 10 days. He doesn't call them. Doesn't FaceTime. Doesn't communicate whatsoever and I'm getting exhausted of this emotional roller coaster.
Since we aren't legally divorced yet, I'm not sure how to handle dealing with this kind of behavior. I personally feel like it's emotionally damaging, not only to my children, but also to me. There are so many empty promises. So so so many. I just can't handle it anymore.
(I have divorce papers done, it's just a matter of certain things being completed before it's final. But even then I don't know how to handle this sort of situation.)