"sex" talk

Melissa - posted on 05/20/2011

I think that you should have an open line of communication going from now on and when he has questions he will know that he can come to you and ask and it won't be awkward or he won't really know WHEN the dreaded talk will come, it just has always been there with you, his Mother. That's what I did with my kids and my 21 yr old son, has no children and my 15 year old daughter has not has sex.. Must be working somehow considering the shows on tv.. 16 and pregnant OMG, I would just have a cow!

Letitia - posted on 05/19/2011

The right time is when he starts asking questions, and let the info come from you that way he knows he can come to you and ask quesions and talk about sex with you..Obviously be age appropriate but also anatomically correct with things as some children get confused when different ''parts'' are called different names..

Jennifer - posted on 05/19/2011

My daughter will be 10 and she is prepared for both puberty and sex. There are extenuating circumstances that made it necessary for me to talk to her earlier than I might have but I'm glad I did.
I was just open and up front about it. The hormones have been flaring a little for the past year, you know the drill, crying for no reason.... so I just sat her down. The more comfortable I acted with it the better she felt about it. It started off as awkward but now she knows it's no big deal. And that I'm not going to be mad about her bring it up. Plus she is prepared. We are so casual about it that one day we were at my moms having spaghetti and my daughter asked how it was that I was born if my mom and dad were not married (I just recently met my dad) and I just said "Sarah, sex is sex and marriage is marriage." My mom yelled at me. LOL. We didnt talk about that stuff when I was growing up and it made me think I was bad or it was bad or whatever,. And when I was in the 5th grade I had to explain periods to my friend whos mom was too embarrassed to tell her, Your son is about to go on the hellish journey of puberty, which means hair, and wet dreams, and changes in his body. If he's close to his granddad then ask if he'd mind, if he's emotionally closer to you, then you should do it. Who will he be more comfortable talking to? And when you tell him about sex and whatnot, also take a minute to tell him what YOU think about sex. Like I said, In my house, because of my faith I believe that sex is sacred to marriage. Then I explained why I felt that way. I was able to make my daughter comfortable communicating with me about issues that can be uncomfortable. And if you do it, get comfortable with the language. Practice. if you blush or get embarrassed saying penis it will make him nervous. That's just what i've decided. I used to be SOOOO uncomfortable but now I can answer sex and puberty questions like a pro. Hope that helps.

Patrice - posted on 05/18/2011

I have an 8 yr old daughter who is developing breast and pubic hair, she also likes the feeling of rubbing her jeans against her private part. I have taken her to the pediatrician, the doc keeps saying don't worry about it she'll out grow it, but it's been going on since the age of 3 so YES I have had the "talk" with my daughter and we continue to talk about it.

Janetta - posted on 05/13/2011

I think you should choose your words and place to talk to your child about sex in simple terms. I have a 9 year old boy who is very inquistive on this topic, Sometimes I wonder am I saying too much or too little because I certainly don't want him starting sexual activity early. So gaging is good and sex in the playground talk needs to be monitored.

Penelope - posted on 11/13/2008

be as in depth as u both feel comfortable & be truthfull i have found telling my kids whats what since they were young easier & them seeing animals going for it helps a little lol

Erin - posted on 11/13/2008

My daughter is 11 and we have had the talk about whats gonna happen to her body and the sex talk more then once. I have talked about it off and on for years starting with the simple where do babies come from years ago. I would get as indepth as your comfortable with and just answer his questions as they come and let him know he can come to you or his grandfather is any questions arise.

Heidi - posted on 11/12/2008

My daughter is 10 and Iv already started having conversations with her about sex. I think it is really important in this day and age. We need to prepare our children because if they are starting to ask us you know they are talking about it with there friends. I rather talk to my daughter about it then go and ask her friends and get false information.