Theresa - posted on 01/19/2011 ( 44 moms have responded )
I am a single mother of a 3 (almost 4) year old little girl. After separating, her father decided to move back home over four hours away. For most of her life, he has not been involved. After not seeing her for over a year, he began calling once a week. I want him to be actively involved in her life because I know the pain of a father who came and went as he pleased. I was initially happy that my daughter's father began making an effort to be involved. However, the extent of his involvement is calling for five minutes a week and staying silent for most of the phone call. I am the one who asks my daughter questions, like how preschool was, so she will speak to him. After each phone call she is always extremely upset and tends to be cranky the rest of the evening. She has told me that she wants to see her daddy and show him all of the things he makes at preschool etc. He never asks about how she is growing or what she likes etc either. I have spoken to her father on several occasions regarding my concerns. I have offered to let him stay at my home because I know money is an issue. I have asked about web cam chats so she can see him that way regularly. He has continued to blow me off and claimed to not have the money to visit. I am not sure what to do at this point. I want her father involved but don't know if his limited involvement is detrimental at this point. Any advice?