Kathleen - posted on 10/24/2009 ( 58 moms have responded )
ok so... im 19 years old. i have a 20 month old son and im about 5 1/2 months pregnant again.. both children are to the same father.. we were together almost 5 years but about 3 months ago i found out he was cheating on me and i broke up with him.. and he stayed with the other girl. but he was still coming round my house telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me and the kids and yet he was still sleeping with her.. i ended up just packing up and moving i left about 3 days after i decieded to go and i moved to another state to go live with my parents.. i didnt hear from him for about a month even tho i was sending him letters in the mail telling him about his son and sending pictures and ultra sound pictures i still didnt hear anything from him.. about a month after i moved he started txting me and calling me telling me how much he missed me and wanted me to come back.. saying that he does want to get married to me and im the only person he loves.. he told me he had broken up with the other girl and she confirmed it for me so i waited another month and then came back.. once i got back he came to my house to visit but wouldnt talk to me he only paid attention to his son.. once my son was in bed i asked him what was wrong and he said he couldnt look at me because he knew i had been sleeping with other people.. which i haddnt been. then he told me he wasnt in love with me anymore and he was happyer now than he had ever been with me. but he kept saying he wanted to be there for the kids.. even tho it really hurt my feelings i said ok and let it be.. the next time i saw him he told me he wanted to try and work on our relationship and he wanted us to go to councelling together and he said he would love me again because i was the only person he could trust and he wanted to be with me.. i then found out that exact same night he went to the other girls house and had sex with her and said all the same things to her.. the next time he came over he ended up staying for a week saying he wanted to move with me when i moved back to my parents and that we would work everything out.. everything was going fine..but then i told him to go home and if being with the other girl will make him happy that thats what he should do.. he went home and that same day he found out she had been cheating on him.. now he is calling me all the time.. askng me to come over because he doesent want to be alone..he told one of my friends that he loved this other girl and thought she was the one.. but i just dont understand that if he was saying all that why was he also telling people he loved me and that he was going to make everything work out and he would be there for the kids... so basicly what i am trying to figure out right now is.. im moving back to live close to my parents in less than a month..and he wants to come to.. should i tell him he cant come. should i trust him again. should i try and make things work.. i want to be with him but im scared he doesent love me and is just trying to use me because he is lonely.. how do i know if he actually does still love me and isnt just hurt by what this other girl did to him.. he said to me lastnight that he has realized that im the only person that has ever really loved him and been there for him and treated him right.. but is he going to use that just so he can get love and ill get none in return.. will i just get hurt again.. i honestly have no idea what to do.. i dont want to stop him from seeing his kids so i want him to move with me.. but i also know that i wont move on and be with anyone else while hes still around.. any suggestions or similar storys would help me.