Danielle - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Let me start by saying that my daughter's daddy is amazing! He watches her without a fight, and couldn't be happier to do so... Here's somthing that weighs heavy on my heart about him, though. He may not be her biological father - WAIT! - before you go crazy on me, hear me out... He knows this! I've been upfront with him about everything from the begining. See, him and i have never been in a relationship, but we can't keep our hands off eachother sometimes - I guess you'd say he's my best friend, but we're in a strictly physical relationship, to make a long complicated story short.
I was dating another guy when I got pregnant, and broke it off with him shortly after. There's no way to contact him - he may even have passed away. I'm not real clear on that detail.
Here's my issue - he's an amazing daddy (any man can father a child, but it takes a REAL man to be a daddy) but when we get to talking about genetics, and how she has certain characteristics that are his family's, I bite my tongue every single time. We were talking about getting a DNA test before she was born, but since then, he's fallen so much in love with her that he hasn't said a word about it. Should I even bring this up or just let it go? I want to know to satisfy curiousity, but there's no way to tell based on looks and behaviors alone - she looks and acts a lot like ME! UGH -- What are your thoughts on this mess?