Sick of the stereotypes

Janet - posted on 05/10/2009

I can so relate!

Vikki - posted on 05/09/2009

I am a single Mam, I was 17 when I had my son and people have always looked at me in a different light when they find out that I am not with his father. What annoys me is they do not know the reasons I am not with him or why he rarely sees my son yet I still get discriminated against. He is now 4 years old and if I go to town, people stare and give me funny looks when he throws a tantrum, like it's my fault he's a normal child. I tend to ask if they have a problem and they tend to look at the floor and scurry away as quick as they can.

Janet - posted on 05/09/2009

I am 36 years old but I look younger- even if I was a young single mom, people have no right to treat anyone differrently based on their relationship status. I am single by choice at the moment. I am just not ready to get into a relationship at the moment for personal reasons.

Arizza - posted on 05/08/2009

yes,people are so judgemental..they judge us from our actions without knowing the reasons behind it...absolutely so unfair that they assume they know the whole us instead of understanding us and give atleast sympathy,they will even more stain ur personality.but surely we know,we have the best task in this world,and being a mother and a father at d same time for our children is really fulfilling..let us prove to all those people or shall we call haters..that u know guys,it's not our mistake to be single with kids..we are just very smart and logical when it comes in relationship..stay if ur happy leave if ur not...men are just men,and we wont steal urs...besides,wer just single mom..wer not desperate to be miserable!..i love u guys..all those single moms out there!

Katrina - posted on 05/08/2009

Vent away! It sucks, I know. I had the same problem when I first moved into this apartment complex. All the women thought because i was single i would steal their man. Even though at the time I was 8 months pregnant. They only stereotype and act like that because of their own insecurities. You are right though we don't get the respect we deserve. I hear all the time from my ex how it would be sooo easy to be in my shoes and tak care of the kids. (which there are 4 of) I just think to myself how its only easy for him cause he only has them 4 days a month and when he does have them his GFis there to help. No respect for the fact that we kiss the booboos, change diapers, clean throw up up, do homework, get no sleep, and the list goes on and on. But the one thing that I have learned is, is that I know I do a good job, and I do the best that I can to be a good mommy, and my children love me for that. So, that is all that really matters and counts.