Signing away rights

Amy - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Anyone familiar with the father signing away all rights to the kids in order to NOT pay childsupport?

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Amanda - posted on 12/17/2013

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@ gena laws in iowa both mom and dad need to sign the papers or one can take the other to court. Either way a judge will have to approve as well. Courts will not allow a father to sign his rights away just because he doesn't want to pay child support. Also a father signing his rights away will bastardize a child and judges don't like to do that. So basically if you want him to sign his rights away you either need to be getting married or married to a different man who would like to take over rights to your child, or there needs to be some kind of immediate danger that would be beneficial to the father signing his rights away. Also after eight years of not being in a child's life's father has no rights anyway, and he still has to pay child support.

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Ac - posted on 05/27/2013

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I am dealing with this issue right now! my child's father has not been in their life since i was 3 months pregnant! he cheated on me and didn't even show up for the birth, what makes me livid is now he has decided to grace this world with another child. So after having my child I immediately filed for cs because the father was acting like a child himself and not helping me or anything! I am glad I have a child but I really regret who I had my child with because he's the true definition of a deadbeat dad especially because his other baby doesn't know him either! Men like this should be eliminated from the face of the planet. i want him to sign his rights away but he keeps insisting that he loves our child and promises to be a better dad! Can't take his lies anymore and actions speak louder than words!

Samantha J - posted on 11/13/2012

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is ohio a state that will let my kids father singe over rights and dont have to pay childsuport

Staci - posted on 09/12/2012

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The only thing I know about this is that once a parent actually legally signs away all parental rights to a child, not only are they not responsible for support but they have no decision making power and no visitation anymore. I looked into it in the states of NY and NJ because my ex has never paid support for my 3 and has a lot of money and I would like him to sign the rights all to me.

Keona - posted on 09/10/2012

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He has visitation rights and has been turning down his visits constanly i dnt understand what his problem is

Keona - posted on 09/10/2012

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My sons father is highly upset because i went for custody and i get the bby the majority of the time he only gets him 50 days out the year so hea mad and no longer wants anything to do with my son and wants to sign away his rights because he doesnt wanna pay and i live in pennsylvania its sad his girlfriens calls and harrases me an says how he doesnt want either 1 of us but god has something in store for both of them and i cant wait cause its wrong

Kirsten - posted on 03/05/2009

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Yes that is right in MN also. I filed for child support with the ssn and all that. That was in September, I am still waiting. The father of my children either isn't working or is getting paid cash. 

Cassandra - posted on 03/05/2009

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Well, I live in NC and me and my son's father talked about that. We could have an agreement for him to sign over his rights and not pay child support, but in some states even if you sign over your rights you may still have to send child support. Depending on how much you want the child support I suppose. Also, make sure if he does have to pay child support you are willing to let your child go with him because then he has rights too.

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My sisters ex-husband did this. She asked him to so that her new husband could adopt her 3 children by the 1st guy. He gladly signed which stopped his child support payments. However, by Colorado law he still has to pay the back child support that is due. :) That's how the new family paid for last years summer vacation. The rest (when he does pay) goes into college accounts for the kids.

Amy - posted on 03/04/2009

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I would love to walk away not needing any help.  But since kicking him out in September for pushing me down the stairs, I had to find work.  So despite my Sociology degree, i had to settle for the first jobs available and offered which are housekeeping in a nursing home and a teacher at a daycare center.  i am now $3.000 behind on rent, three car payments, etc etc.  I would like just a TAD of help to get caught up.  hes never been a good father and he won't be now, so no difference there.

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Yep - heard of it ... my ex almost did this with his first child by his first wife. It was all about the money and the "system" (which sucks btw) and had nothing to do with him not loving his daughter. Quite the contrary, he loves his daughter and was broken hearted time and time again because he was denied visitation by his angry ex-wife. He didn't pay support in retaliation of not being allowed to see his daughter, which he had the court ordered right to visitation. The whole system is sick - just because a dad pays his child support, doesn't make him a "good" dad. If he doesn't pay his support, it doesn't make him a "bad" dad either. Every situation is different - one size does NOT fit all. Now I am divorcing and I will not be asking for ANY child support. One, he can't pay it and two, I don't want the bother of dealing with the "system" any more than I have to. Once this divorce is final I hope never to step into a family court room ever again. My soon to be ex was willing to give up his parental rights to get out from under a ridiculous amount of arrears ($40K) and the constant threat of arrest for non-payment. No one cared that he was being denied a relationship with his daughter by a vindictive hate filled ex-wife - they only cared that he had not paid his "support." It is all crap and the family court and child support systems are very damaging to the children and their families. All I am asking for is a divorce and custody ... beyond that I want to get out of the "system" here as quickly as possible!

Billie - posted on 03/04/2009

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in nc, once they sign away their rights you are not entitled to any childsupport

Shereese - posted on 03/04/2009

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Elizabeth: He actually sends the mail back to the PO? What a bum! Nothing good will ever come of him or anyone who refuses to care for their children, man or woman! My blood boils whenever I hear about cases such as my own. My daughter has a sperm donor too and not a Dad. It sucks, but she's better off without him. He's the worse ever!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/04/2009

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i thought every absent parent had to pay no matter where they live. my x has walked out leaving me with his two boys and his little girl on the way, he sends letters back to the csa saying not at this address, he thinks if he doesnt see them he hasnt got to pay for them.. what a fool he was happy to make them but doesnt want to surport them cos he has a new family on the way... i have passed on his work information and every thing i can to help them do there job but they just dont seem to want to do it. id ask a solictior about ur rights and childmatanice. any dad that wants to give his kids up doesnt deserve a second chance..not now not when they are older, and they have relised they made a mistake.. they are the ones missing out.

Dina - posted on 03/04/2009

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I dont know about state laws






but in canada any man whose sperm goes to a child he has to legally pay for even if he wants nothing to do with the child...the only way a man doesn't have to pay for a child is if you have a bf/husband who legally adopts the child, then the biological father signs his rights over to the step father, and the step father becomes responsible.



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I know in the state of Iowa and some other states you can not sign away rights to a child unless there is someone else that will adopt them and support the child. Thats the nice thing. Guys get stupid and think they can make all these babies and then not support them.

Shereese - posted on 03/04/2009

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I cant believe the audacity of some men. They'd rather sign away their rights than to pay child support. WOW! If it was that easy to rid yourself of child support, then most Deadbeat Dads would've signed away their rights a long time ago. Thank God I live in a state where that doesn't matter. He still has to pay and I plan to take my "sperm donor" for everything he has. No sympathy for Deadbeat Dads.

Kirsten - posted on 03/03/2009

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So do you NOT want him to pay child support? Were you married? I live in Minnesota and if there is no proof of parentige filed with the hospital the day of birth, the father has no rights, actually if you weren't married....In the stat of Minnesota, the mother has full costody and the father would have to fight otherwise.

Amy - posted on 03/03/2009

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Good.  With four kids I need the support.  Problem is he will probably just go to jail rather than pay.

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Natisha is right, but it is all over, it doesn't matter if they sign away all their rights, unless they are adopted by another father who is supporting them, the state still requires the birth father to pay child support. My ex also threatened to do it for years, but never went through with it because I could have still filed for support.

Natisha - posted on 03/03/2009

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My ex was going to do it.... until he found that in the state of tx it doesn't matter... he still would have to pay. LoL

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