Maggie - posted on 05/18/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )
After a three year on and off relationship with the father of my child I ended things. I am not bitter I just don't see any hope of a healthy relationship and I have concerns. He has left multiple times. A month after I broke up with him he bought a ring, he had proposed to me 3 times, all answers being no. Extremely impatient with me, actually lied to me about a possibility of him having lung cancer, my grandfather died of this, I watched it most of my life. In a nuttshel this is nowhere near the worst thing he has done. He has been abusive and laid hands on me. Screaming yelling the whole 9 yards. Always did hurtful things on important dates, like talked to another woman on the anniversary of a dear mutual friends death, and I caught him on a dating site with the last post being our daughters first birthday, only a month after we got back together. Through all this Ive become fed up and have a few questions.
1. Does this sounds like a narcissist? Ive never dealt with one that I know of
2. He has disappeared before and I fear he may do so again as he seems to value me more than our daughter
3. How long should I wait for him to visit until I decide to cut him off, everytime he has visited recently are attempts to get me back
4. Is it ridiculous that if he's not in the picture that I would rather not even go for childsupport? I have one child and I have provided for her myself in the beginning when it was most expensive.
5. Can anyone relate?