Single mom, father not involved

Kimberly - posted on 12/27/2010

Im in the same situation as you. I recently just had my son and threw out the entire pregnacy my babys dad wasnt around nor has he tried making any contact with me to see the baby. He did come to the hospital only to tell me hes getting married and adopting her kid. I just decided to take his ass to court and get my son the child support he deserves. I wish you all the luck cause I wont lie it is very hard but when you look at your baby its all worth it, I see the plus sign that I get my baby all to myself and youll be able to get yours all to yourself to. Hope everything works out for you and take his ass to court so your kid can get the child support they deserve!!!

Jacki - posted on 09/14/2010

Well I was in your same position! After I told my daughters donor that I was pregnant he told me that he had another girl pregnant and she was 3 months further along than me! I was totoally emotional abouth the situation especially bc he decided he wanted to be with her. I ended up going to everyone of my doctors appointments by myself and doing everything by myself.. Although the pregnancy hormones kicked my but and I cried almost every night it gets better.. Just wait til you can feel your baby move then what the jerk is doing to you won't seem as bad. I ended up taking him to court for child support and lets just say I have never had any better satisfaction until that day.. Keep your head up and smile you have a wonderful gift for god growing inside of you! If you need anything message me anytime! Bc I know how hard it can be at times!

Caitlyn - posted on 09/13/2010

wow hun, im sorry. I am currently in a similar position. I am almost 23, and I am 25weeks pregnant with a beautiful and healthy little girl. I started dating a guy, then to find out he wasnt anything I thought he was. He was cheating on me, abusing me, and a complete alcoholic. but I left him and I can honestly say my life is sooo much better. In a way, and as horrible as it sounds, I can only hope he stays far, far away. My daughter is soooo much better off without him. I am a much better person without that negitive individual as well. I started going to counceling, and hanging out with other friends that have kids, and my famfam alot more often, it helps as well. your child is better off with you, the mommy that loves him/her, regardless of what the father thinks. It will be hard, and Im not going to lie about that, but its all about your unborn child now. He dosnt matter, and Im sorry you had to experience this as well. I wouldnt wish our situations on any other individual. not even my worst enemy. But your baby needs you, so make sure you take care of your self, and your baby!!! your child loves you. through my situation with my x, my child has provided me the stregnth to quit drinking and smoking(after 10 years of smoking). She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I couldnt be happier. shes my gift from God, and a true blessing. Just take care of yourself and your baby will love you forever. "be who you are, and say how you feel, because those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind." ~Dr Seuss :)

Shannon - posted on 09/13/2010

i am sorry to hear about your situation...my heart goes out to u as wel!l.some men are just totally without a heart or any kind of conscious as well. i know that first hand as well as i c u do,per your post.u should definitely go after him for child support any any kind of financial support u can get from him.he doesnt sound like he deserves u or your child in his life though and if that the kind of person he wants to be than he is no man and no father that is for sure.and for u !i would try to get the best support group that u can for u and your unborn shild.any of your family or friends that can be there for u and help that live close enough to u the more the better.and make sure that u keep telling yourself(until u believe it!) that u and your baby deserve better then the person that got u pregnant and that that is what u will have is better,better people in your life a better life than u could have with him and u will be just fine.lots of us do the parenting thing on our own without the father present and i do totally believe that us single mothers are stronger for our experiences and our children grow up just fine without the father in the picture...i do wish u all the best and i do believe u are in the right place here at circle of moms for support and advice that u need i do wish u well and will be here for u feel free to write to me and we can talk i will be there for u if its only on line still the offer is out there ..try to keep your chin up and remember things will get better .just never give up ..all the best of wishes to u.hope to hear from u soon! =)

Christina - posted on 09/12/2010

i would contact his gf. she has a right to know that her child is going to have a sibling and that her man cheated on her. i would also try to find a man who would treat your child like he/she was his own. he or she can adopt the child and you can forget all about that jerk. in order for you to understand my stand point on this i have to explain my story. i got pregnant and had a baby just over a year ago and i married the jerk who got me pregnant. basically, he doesn't want our daughter, but he is intent upon torturing me for as long as possible. it's way easier to just not have to deal with a father who's a jerk. i would count it as a blessing.

Jamie - posted on 09/12/2010

I agree, take him to court and get child support out of him. And if he doesn't want to have anything to do with the child then just ask him to sign his rights over and be done with him. Nobody wants their child to be with out a father but sometimes its actually for the best when they act like that!

Amy - posted on 09/12/2010

Go after his ass for child support!!