SiNGLE TEEN MOM

Angie - posted on 08/10/2010

I was 18 when my oldest was born and have been a single mom for 15 years! I'm getting old lol here is my advice... First of all take a deep breath and remember that you are a strong woman and that you CAN do this!!!! Rally all your friends and family that will be a positive influence on you and your daughter.I was scared to death about labor and it was not a pleasant experience, but it is the most amazing experience! Remember it is ok to cry and ok to be angry and hurt by what your daughter's father has done. In the end it will be his loss. Make sure you do all you can to get child support. Take any help that is offered and always say thank you and mean it. Trust your grandmother as she will be the one answering so many questions you will have. So far as your mother goes if it is possible and safe i hope that you can have a relationship with her and she with her grandchild. Keep your head up! Trust your gut and take lots of pictures she will grow faster than you could ever believe. Treasure each moment no matter how difficult they may be. Hold her close and tell her every day how much you love her and that she is the most important person in your life. Good luck!!

Ro-selina - posted on 08/08/2010

omg! the same thing kinda happened to me except i had my mum,it so hard wen they act like they dont care but trust me they care! and just keep ur head up and dont worry about labour its so easy and he will be the last thing on your mind ..knowing tht youre finally going to meet ur beautiful little girl soon is such an awesome feeling ,just make sure before she gets here u have everything sorted stock up on nappies! they go through them so fast and best is to breast
feed to get tht bonding time with them because thts something tht no one else can do with ur baby :) and just give him a call wen babys born tell him n all his family tht the world has been blessed with another beautiful lil girl because she will be! if he comes to see her he will just fall in love.. my daughters father dumped me for not getting an abortion he acts like he doesnt care about he never did never will kinda thing but he came n saw her in hospital and the first thing he said to her was i love u lol he would have never told me probably never will tell me thts how he feels about our baby ..but they generally do care they just dont want u to know tht..aww and again labour just trust ur body it really is ur best friend! :) and the feeling wen they hand u ur new born nothing can top tht.. good luck hope all goes well!

Kimberly - posted on 08/08/2010

We're all scared of labor. Just remember that it's only a short period of time before a life time with your little girl. It's okay to be afraid, and it's important that you're strong when she comes. Let yourself relax a little until she comes. Just breathe.

Vanessa - posted on 08/05/2010

Is your relationship with Grandma good? You should nurture this relationship as she will be your biggest source of support when you need her. Never take her help for granted and you will do fine.
Remember if you want to claim child support the babies dad needs to be on the birth certificate - just think carefully if he's the sort of person you want in bubs life for the next 18 years!
You'll know when you go into labor - it's not an instant process and you'll have plenty of time to rally the troops. Labor can be horrible - but it doesn't last long - just think of it as a labor of love for your little girl!
You made this baby and she'll be your responsibility - if you make up your mind to focus on her (not resuming a social life straight up and letting everyone else look after her) then you will be a great mother and no one can ever accuse you of not putting her best interests first. It is important you stay away from the wrong types of people too ---- unfortunately the potential is always there for childrens services to take an interest because of your age and you want them to see that you are child focused. You were old enough to make her!
Yes it will be hard - and lonely - and exhausting --- for a long time, but if you stay on target then there's nothing you can't achieve for that little princess. No one wants to be a single mum at 17.... you're still a child yourself in so many ways. The time has come to look at things maturely and help her grow into a beautiful well balanced young lady. Spend some quality time with Grandma every now and then and let her know you appreciate her - it's worth it.
My 3rd (little Princess) is due in just over 9 weeks and finally at 30 I think I've got it all down pat! LOL