So alone. What do I do?

Carrie - posted on 06/11/2009

Crystal,

I cant say I know how it fees to have your husband leave after so long. What I can say is that my daughter's father never wanted me to have her so therefore was gone before she was even born. It was tough....but....you learn that this little person needs you more than anyone...and you do what you have to do to survive. What doesnt kill us makes us stronger. Keep your chin up and realize it is out of your control and you need to now do it for your baby. There is alot of help out there from aid with childcare to even help with schooling if you choose that route. Do some real soul searching and decide what is best for you and your baby and go...your not alone. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

Carrie Groeschl

Janine - posted on 06/11/2009

Oh how I know what you're feeling...my husband just recently decided the same after 16 years! All I can say is...be strong. There is life after this! It's not your end, it's your beginning! One day at a time is all you can do. Hold your head high, and NEVER play the blame game. You will get through this, believe me. Go through every phase of the hurt...the anger, the disappointment, the rejection...don't deny yourself a tear.

I am thinking of you - and thousand's of women out there experiencing what we are.

Love & Blessing to you and your baby.

Audrey - posted on 06/10/2009

My heart goes out to you Crystal. My husband of 22 years left us, me & 3 kids, one is autistic. I also had no family or friends to help me. Take it one day at a time dear. One foot in front of the other. I got back on my feet for the kids, and that's what got me through it. Focus on your little one, look at his dear face and know that you are seeing unconditional love there. Do it for him. Right now you feel like there isn't a single person in the world who cares about you. But he does. And I do. I know it hurts so bad. But if your husband could walk away like that, then he was not worth keeping. You need to start thinking that with him gone, now you have your independence back. That is a valuable thing. After a while, after the initial shock and hurt wore off, I really wanted to send the other woman a thank you card. You're overwhelmed right now, but this time next year, you will look back and see how far you came and will rightfully feel pride in what you've been able to do. I know that doesn't take away the hurt right now, but you can do it. God is with you and I am too. Your little boy is so sweet. Focus on him and you will get through this, I promise. Love to you and your baby. Stay strong.