Shemiah - posted on 05/19/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
Case regarding my boys: ages 5 & 6
*Just released from jail, he plead guilty to a felony involving a gun.
*Been addicted to drugs and alcohol since the age of 16, with no rehabilitation and little acknowledgement that he needs help.
*Documented batterer, actually there is a warrant for his arrest since he beat me up during my last pregnancy
*During mediation he threatened me that if I pursued more child support(he pays 206 a month for 2 children), he would quit his job and work under the table.
*Wants visitations that would have my boys in another state for the entire summer due to us not living in the same state...
*Family and GF are mostly drug addicts and have criminal records
Bottom line is, I fear for my children... there is a history of abuse and he is not a good role model nor is he equipped to take care of them in my absence... I am very concerned as to what they will be exposed to if he is given visitations, I'm even concerned that he will take them to Mexico and I will never see them again... it was a very violent, abusive and controlling relationship that me and this kids are still recovering from. I do fear that his desire to have them for visitations is just to hurt me and make me fear. Trust me, I would LOVE to have a break for a while, every once in a while. But it is an honest and fear with basis. I need to get this across to the courts with out sounding like Im just trying to hurt him... Advice moms? Anyone with any kind of real court experience or legal knowledge pertaining to such a case? Any feedback would be helpful.