Son's Father is back

Alicia - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My son's father had only seen my son 2 times in the past year and a half. In Dec he called that he wanted to give up his rights and I was fine with that. However, a month ago he came back and there is nothing I can do to stop him from seeing my son, because he never did give his rights up. Now because he is back my son is acting up with me and more worrisome he is acting up at school. My first instinct is to baby him because I know he is confused and doesn't know why his dad left or why he is back out of nowhere. But I know that I have to still be strong and keep up the rules and disciple same as before. I just don't know what to do to help him understand or stop acting up. It is eating me up inside what he must be going through and how confused he must be. To make matters worse, my husband (not his father) and I split a couple months before his dad came back because my husband got violent. My son witnessed it and that was hard for him also. he is such a strong kid and still very happy and smiling all the time, but he doesn't want to listen to me or to his teacher. This last week is the first time she has ever had a problem with him. I don't know what to do, some advise would be great. Thanks!!

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Mel - posted on 08/08/2009

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Seems like you have to re-establish a world of security for your son. You are doing the right thing going about his daily schedule. Reassure him that you will always be there no matter what. Routine is key when they are young in completing a secure envioroment where your son can feel safe. He will eventually readjust.



I know about the whole dad thing. It can really throw off your schedule and they automatically feel they have all the rights you do just because they donated some sperm. You seem like a strong woman, it will take you to be strong for your son.