soon to be 15 and single what should i allow the baby daddy??

Priscilla - posted on 08/06/2009

Hey i know how you feel and all i can say is that i was a young mom to and that you need to remember is that when your child is born that your job is to protect that child and do what is best for that child. Also alot of people forget that when your child is born it is no longer about either one of the parents it is about the child. So what i recommend is for you to do is to wait until your child is born then tell him that if he wants to see his child to come to your house. Also make sure you go right away before he does and get full custody of your child and to make sure you put on there that if you feel like it is nesseary to make sure that he only gets visitation if you are around. But you don't have to listen to me but only do what is best for the baby and i am very happy for you. God Bless

Kim - posted on 08/06/2009

I went through the same thing with my son's dad.It was very difficult at first, but I can tell you now that getting angry is not the answer. You can go to court and family mediation and set up parenting time and make sure that you obtain full custody of the child. The jude believes that the parent who provides the most support and parenting should have custody and care of the child. I believe that it is important to let the child have a relationship with his dad without any negative input. If there is anything to be found out, the child will find it out as he or she grows older.



I would also go to your District Attourney's office and get child suppport started.

Kate - posted on 08/06/2009

congrats . i was in a similar situation as you are. my sons father wasnt around much after our son was born . i had to beg him to see him because we were still together but living in different towns . needless to say it was hard. now i have my son full time and he isnt around. how i got to this point is i finally gave up and said if you want to see him you have to come here. because i wasnt putting effort for him to see his son. i was sick of it. after i said that he didnt come around for a month . then he came for a weekend then disapeared . i dont know if this will help you in anyway ., but thats what i did once he sees how hard it is to actually take care of an infant he may completely back away. i love being a single mom now. i get my son all to myself and i make the decision i dont have to ask anyone if i can do something . and this way im not setting myself up for dissapointment because i know theres no one here to help so i cant even hear the responce . no im tired you do it . man i hated those words . ya im tired too .. anyways . i hope you figure something out ..

Carrissa - posted on 08/06/2009

firstly congratulations... i think the decision should be left to you ur mum and you no ur baby best if u feel safe leaving your daughter with him then do it ull no wen the time is right for her to be left over night he is the father so he is entitled to see her but if he wants to play daddy he also needs to take on that resposibility and not wen it suits him... and i think if ur going to organise times for him to see her depending on your relationship u should do it on mutual grounds... and as for how often do it as often as you can or that suits you anyway its only fair as long as he is putting effort in anyway i mean dont go to his beck an call wen hes ready to be daddy... make sure hes makin equal effort as you its hard work but youll get thru good luck and i hope i helped