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Suggestions on how to talk to my boyfriend....

Elsie - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am dating right now and my boyfriend is a sweetheart and loves my son to death. And I know that he works late at night, but he some times wants to come over after work. Well i dont mind that, but it just feels like he comes over and expects to sleep all day long. And it really sucks since I have to get up in the morning and take care of my son. I dont want him to feel like I dont enjoy it when he comes over, but it just sucks that he gets to sleep while Im there taking care of my son and he just sleeps. And durning the week its not as bad since I take my son to daycare and then go to work in the afternoon. But on Sundays and Mondays if he comes over he does sleep until noon or 2pm and then when he gets up it just feels like I should be so excited to see him up, but Im so tired and I just want to go take a nap. Although I want to take a nap I cant since my son is usually down for his name and right now we're in a one bedroom apartment so he gets the room.

I just dont know how to talk to my boyfriend and tell him how i feel about feeling like I have to still do everything myself when he wants to be apart of both my son's life and mine. It just some times feels like I have to do more when he is there compared to if not. Maybe it is just stress. But he knew when we started dating I had a young son and I was single mother. And he tends to help with him, but I just get fusterated some times and want to shut down when this happens. And I want to stop that and be able to say whats wrong without feeling like I will mess things up.

Can any one give me any suggestions on how to maybe bring the subject up and not feel like I will mess things up? I guess Im scared since he is my first relationship since my son's father left us.

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Elsie - posted on 04/25/2010

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Thanks Rachel, I will try that for sure. Your reply has really helped me out. I guess part of it was that I did let it out and was not just keeping it in any more lol ^_^

Rachel - posted on 04/24/2010

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I completely understand where your coming from. It's very hard to date a guy who says he wants to help, but he's not your baby-daddy so you dont feel like you can really ask him change diapers or something. I am seeing someone and am in the same kind of situation. I always feel like I can't get mad at him for not doing anything because it really isnt his job to. the best advice i can give you is to just talk to him about it. I know it's scary and you don't want to be left again, but its better to get it out in the open than letting things go on like this. He needs to understand that there are going to be unique challenges that come with dating a mother, and if he truly wants to make things work he will try his best to work with you and help you get through it. It may just be a simple as saying that you want to reserve some nights at home for just you and your son. Let me know if there's anything more specific you need help with...

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