Elsie - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am dating right now and my boyfriend is a sweetheart and loves my son to death. And I know that he works late at night, but he some times wants to come over after work. Well i dont mind that, but it just feels like he comes over and expects to sleep all day long. And it really sucks since I have to get up in the morning and take care of my son. I dont want him to feel like I dont enjoy it when he comes over, but it just sucks that he gets to sleep while Im there taking care of my son and he just sleeps. And durning the week its not as bad since I take my son to daycare and then go to work in the afternoon. But on Sundays and Mondays if he comes over he does sleep until noon or 2pm and then when he gets up it just feels like I should be so excited to see him up, but Im so tired and I just want to go take a nap. Although I want to take a nap I cant since my son is usually down for his name and right now we're in a one bedroom apartment so he gets the room.
I just dont know how to talk to my boyfriend and tell him how i feel about feeling like I have to still do everything myself when he wants to be apart of both my son's life and mine. It just some times feels like I have to do more when he is there compared to if not. Maybe it is just stress. But he knew when we started dating I had a young son and I was single mother. And he tends to help with him, but I just get fusterated some times and want to shut down when this happens. And I want to stop that and be able to say whats wrong without feeling like I will mess things up.
Can any one give me any suggestions on how to maybe bring the subject up and not feel like I will mess things up? I guess Im scared since he is my first relationship since my son's father left us.