Samantha - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 19 moms have responded )
I need help lol. My son is a very talkative and bright four year old. his father has been absent since he was three weeks old. I don’t receive support and I don’t need it if it means not having to share custody. So now my son is asking questions about his father and making up a background story for him. I've read the articles about talking to your children about absent parents. I know I’m not supposed to lie, bad mouth, and make sure my son doesn’t jump to the conclusion that his father being absent is his fault.
However, his father is a bad person. While I have no intentions of telling my son that his father was bad, I’m not willing to paint him in a false positive light. So what do I say to him? And by bad I mean think American history X bad, than add some drug dealing and gang activity in there.
I plan to tell my son that his father wasn’t able to be a parent, but then he is going to ask why, what do I say then? Above everything else I dont want my son to think its his fault.