Jen - posted on 11/18/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
So i'll start from the beginning. I was dating a guy and became pregnant after only a couple months of being together. He wanted me to get an abortion and after giving it some consideration for a while, i decided that I couldnt do it. When I told him i was planning on keepin the baby, he got very upset with me and told me he never wanted to talk to me again. About a week or two after this happened, he must have start confiding in my best friend(ex) that I also confided in and they began dating. They are still together and im pretty sure he lives with her now. That was a pretty big slap in the face. A couple months after that, I decided to tell his mother who i knew he had no intentions of telling. She was shocked but seems like she has good intentions of being in the baby's life. She arranged for us to meet, and a couple days before it, sperm donor msgd me and asked me how things were going. Now that I look back, I think it was only because he knew the meeting with his parents was coming up. When we all met up, he gave this big speech like, "every kid deserves a father and i'm going to be there for your son." about a month later, I asked him to come to an ultrasound and he told me he couldnt make it, only a couple hours before it. It ended up being rescheduled because the way the baby was facing and I told him, and he made no effort to come to that ultrasound either. I havent talked to him since. I'm beginning to think all this crap he said about being there was just a show he put on for his parents. I'm 6 months pregnant and i wonder everyday whats going to happen with this situation. His mom plans on gettin her own car seat for the baby and being in its life but i dont know what he's thinking. Should I talk to him about this and ask him if he even intends on being there for his son. Part of me resents him and never wants to talk to him again but on the other hand, he's my baby's father. I walk by him at the college once in a while but i dont even know what to say to him, cuz im still mad. It bugs me how he's not involved but i don't know how he should be involved at the same time. Its bugs me that he told me he would be there and yet he doesnt even know what im considering naming the baby. I'm so happy I decided to keep the baby and I am gettin pretty excited but there's just this big ball of stress also.