Gillian - posted on 01/25/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
My daughters father is a bar/club owner. That he claims he cannot escape to see his daughter for 3 YEARS. So I decided, since I grew up in a single mom home with no involvement from my father, I wanted to give her an opportunity to see her father even if it meant moving. Since I have moved to his city, to pursue a good job offer as well, he's been minimal at best with her time with her, and complains when having to spend more than 3 hours with her stating "its too difficult" or it's not fair that he's "STUCK" with our daughter while I'm out enjoying myself (at the gym no less). I have no friends in this dreadful town, and my family lives 6 hours away (driving) I have no support system, no other person for assistance with childcare (my hours are from 2-11) than him. And he's starting fights with me at every other turn. Telling me he owes me nothing and that if I take Kira away from him my "life is over". Considering he hardly sees her and I surely cannot do this by myself. I'm weighing my options here. Stay here so Kira can slowly develop a relationship with her father, even though I'm suffering horribly and cannot rely on him for ANYTHING. Or should I move back with my family where the environment is always loving and caring. My family was and has always been there from the day I got pregnant when he demanded the abortion. His kindly stepped out of the picture. He tells everyone what a great father he is and it really chaps my a$$. And my daughter would rather visit with his girlfriend than spend time with him. And I quote "daddy is mean to people". So here is my incredible dilemma... remain here in hopes that he will come around. Or make the move to where the people already accept responsibility for her and love her ALWAYS (not just when it's convenient for them).