Megan - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
So, I found out i was pregnant at about 6 weeks. The father is my ex, we had broken up about 3 weeks before, and when I told him I was pregnant He was very insistent on he didnt want to be there for me, but he wanted me to take a paternity test and if I didnt he wouldnt be involved and he says he wants 50/50 custody if not more.
Now, he is not a bad daddy. Hes got 2 kids of his own from his previous marriage. But he lives with his parents, has 2 fulltime jobs, and very inconsistent in communicating with me. I am very reluctant to lose half or all of my time with my child to that kind of life. On top of that I dont want that kind of life for my kid.
I grew up in a divorced parents situation and I always felt confused and torn, i dont want that for my son.
I am not 3 n half months pregnant and I've decided I want to take precautions in case he decides to fight me on custody. (its very possible he wont fight me at all, it doesnt seem like he wants anything to do with it. But that may change when the child is actually here).
I saved the text and call logs and messages of me telling him i was pregnant and it was his to fight off any cases of parent alienation. I'm also not putting him on the birth certificate and wont be communicating with him anymore about being involved.
But I need some advice of what else I can do so that he cant surprise me and take my child. It has become VERY clear that if he chooses to fight me, that is going to be his end goal. Please help! I didnt expect to be a mother, but I know I'm going to be a great mother!