VBAC or c-section for my 2nd child? Please help!!!

Nicole - posted on 05/27/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I had a c-section with my first son.Now I'm due with my 2nd son on his 2nd birthday Sept 4th, Their father has left me, so now I have to do it all alone. I'm so scared of the recovery alone and how will I care for my older child with no help after another c-section? My doctor says to do the c-section, they don't do VBAC any more. Plus I have a tear in my rectum that will get worse with pushing as well. I just can't imagine going through the 6 weeks of recovery alone with a 2 year old and newborn from a c-section. Please help!!!

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Nicole - posted on 04/30/2012

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I had a vbac after 3 csections this past sept. I was fortunate enough to find a doctor who would let me try for the vbac and it worked..alot of dr's dont want to take on the liability of a vbac but they still do vbacs... I am proof of that. I was told by the hospital staff that I could not try for a vbac but in the next breath they said but it is elective surgery so we cant make her have a csection. Im just so happy that I had the opportunity to have a vaginal birth..good luck.

Nicole - posted on 05/29/2011

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Well my Dr did them up until a couple months ago just bc be doesn't like having to be in the hospital the whole labor with vbac. So its for selfish reasons. just like him scheduling me a c-section with my 1st for no medical reason. they said you are small, baby is big let's schedule it. he was 8.9lbs. that's not too big to deliver vaginally. he just probably enjoys getting in & out of the hospital in an hour to go golf in the afternoon & make more money on top of it. very selfish. its sad.

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2011

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The choice has to be yours. I work as a surgical tech. in a Labor and Delivery unit that routinely does VBAC's and many of them do just fine. Some do end up having to have c-sections for various reasons but more deliver naturally than don't. Keep in mind though, that if your doctor is telling you that they don't, that it is likely they will NOT be very experienced in dealing with them. Not everyplace does them so if this is something you really want to do, then you need to call around and see if any hospitals in your area, and preferably doctors practices as well, do them routinely. While VBAC's can be done safely, you want a doctor that knows the unique complications that can come with them to.

Find a doctor, and hospital, that can give you what you need not ones that are just going to give you a, "We don't do that."

Jessi - posted on 05/28/2011

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1st. when i was born i gave my mom a "new a**hole" as she put it. all they did with her was kept her in the hospital a couple days longer and made sure she could defecate on her own.

2nd. a friend of mine is on her 4th pregnancy, 2nd live child. with her daughter (2nd preg, 1st live), 3 days into intense labor the doctors decided to go with Cesarian b/c after doing scans they found out she was attached to her mother's spinal column. now with her son (4th preg), they are allowing her to go with VBAC but with the amount of complications she has had with this pregnancy (as she had with her other 2 stillborn sons) they are going to prepare to do a c-section again if need be.

You do have options, don't let them tell you otherwise unless there are complications. BUT PLEASE don't be the dumb one who thinks they can do it when there are clearly serious complications and risk you and/or your baby's lives.

Nicole - posted on 05/27/2011

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No I don't have anyone near here that can stay with me. The doctors are only pushing the c-section bc it's convenient for them like they did with my first. It has nothing to do with anything medical. So, the pros definitely outweigh the cons of going natural.

Michele - posted on 05/27/2011

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With my daughter I had to have an emergency c-section...Now I had a really bad pregnancy with my son, so I had the option of a c-section or having him natural. Looking over the pros & cons of everything...I decided to have a c-section because of how bad my pregnancy was. Do you have any family that would be able to stay with you while you heal from the c-section? Any friends that could stay with you maybe? I would definitely weigh the pros & cons & I would definitely say if the Drs are all for you having a c-section - I would go with the c-section hun.

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