Visitation Schedule help?

Jamie - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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So my husband and I are divorced and right now our visitation schedule is: Sunday night at 6 she comes back to mom and stays until Thursday morning. She is picked up after school and goes and stays with dad until Sunday night again, we do this 3 weekends out of the month, so I get one weekend and because of that I end up getting her for 10 days straight.

Dad is complaining because this isn't fair. He wants to do week on week off and for the reason of school I do not think that this would be a good and stable situation for our 5 year old.



Any one have any suggestions on a schedule that would be 50-50ish and that doesnt involve one parent having her every weekend.



I'm really going out of my mind trying to have everyone happy with my daughter being the happiest.

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Jamie - posted on 11/06/2012

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Well I finally figured out a schedule that I am hoping will work out for us.

Its every other weekend with being picked up after school on Wednesday and staying until 6pm on Sunday. Then the next week when she has the weekend with me her dad picks her up after school Thursday and drops her off Friday morning at school, then she comes with me after and spends the weekend, then we rinse and repeat. Keeping my fingers crossed, I finally just gave up on trying to make EVERYONE happy and just did what I thought was best for our little girl with out doing week to week. Thanks everyone!

Megan - posted on 11/05/2012

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have you consulted a lawyer? it might be about time, I have a lawyer set up to take over and my daughter isnt even born yet because its whats best for her! in my state and in most they like to try to keep it out of the courts if possible which i like so they would write something up and then send it off to him if that doesnt work mediation would come into play. good luck keep us posted!!

Jamie - posted on 11/05/2012

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He will NOT accept anything that is less than week to week, I have tried all different ways for the schedule to be and its basically 50/50 but he is only looking at the days ratio. I do not count the days that I drop off and he picks up as a full day because it isn't, but that's what he does.

I am trying soo very hard to be fair but he's wearing me down to where I'm about to say you get every other weekend whether you like it or not, but its not fair to our daughter. I'm so frustrated right now and I have NO clue what I should do. :(

Megan - posted on 11/02/2012

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im dealing with that right now, and the best thing might be sunday to tuesday morning and you get her back after school on tuesday and have her till sunday morning so he gets one weekend day a week and you get one weekend day.

Faye - posted on 11/02/2012

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My cousin's visitation is set up like this: Monday morning depends on whose weekend it was, Monday PM the kids ride the bus to his house, Tuesday AM they ride the bus to school from his house, Tuesday PM she picks them up at school, Wednesday AM she drops them at school, Wednesday night they ride the bus to dad's, Thursday AM they ride the bus to school from dad's, Thursday PM she picks them up at school, Friday AM she drops them at school, Friday PM (if it is his weekend) they ride the bus to his house, OR (if it is her weekend) she picks them up at school then goes to his house to get clothes if the weather has changed and she needs to other clothes (been nice and turns chilly). If it is her weekend, she drops them at school on Monday AM, if it is his weekend they ride the bus. His kids are 6 and 7 and they have been doing this for 18 months.



Your ex NEEDS to understand that at least he ended up with a visitation schedule that is more like 50/50 instead of every other weekend and one evening a week! does he not realize that he has her for 72 hours in the week while you have her 92 hours in the same week. How would he propose the 18 hour difference? Really it is only 9 hours if it was split between the two homes.



When my ex lived in the area, we had the more traditional schedule but since he has moved out of state, it is more like 1 weekend every 5 - 6 weeks as the schedules allows. He is in the process of moving almost 9 hours away from our home area. Even if we meet at our halfway point, it is a 4 hour 20 minute drive for both of us. 10PM meets on Friday night and 6PM meets on Sunday nights are now not possible anymore. It is more like midnight Saturday AM and 1PM Sunday afternoon.



Good luck!

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