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For the past 9 years I've put up with sporadic visits from my son's biological father. Several times I've requested consistent days/month to be arranged - he has not been able to manage that. Last year on one of those sporadic visits where he took my son for a visit - he left him alone. My son was alone long enough to feel afraid and called me to come pick him up - which I did. I wrote Z's Dad a letter saying I would only allow him to see Z at school; football; and other public events. That was Sept 2009. June 2010 he calls and shows up with birthday gift and $20 in a card for Z. Then calls the other night asking to take Z out to a movie. I said I'd think about it. Called him back July 4th to say I stand by my letter from Sept 2009 and he can feel free to rent a movie and bring it over here to visit Z. He accuses me of keeping him from visiting Z. We argue, I end up telling him he is not welcome here anymore and to get off my property.
Should I leave it alone, or should I pursue visitation via the courts? If I pursue the visitation, it would be to limit it so my son cannot go anywhere with him. I have sole guardianship of my son now - had to get that when Z's Dad refused to sign his passport for us to take a vacation.