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Wat would u do if u are expecting and the father bolted?

Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have 4 yr old son and i was with my bf for almost 4 yrs. ii recently found out i am 3 months pregnant and when i told my bf he took he shit and left but he told me he was going away on a job but i come to find out he went to go live with someother girl and her kids which he supposedly has been spending time with like 4 hrs away. And my mom wasnt too fond of him so im scared to tell her about me being pregnant plus i dont know how to tell her cuz she was upset when i moved into my own apt in jan. I havent heard from him since he left but lately i been gettin unknown calls so i am thinking it mite be him but i am not sure. wat would u do if u were in my situation?

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Nicole - posted on 04/22/2010

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Sadly I am in this situation. Mines bolted when I was about 8wks and now I'm 21wks. He tried calling me after he wasn't heard from for over a month. I told him to move on because I did. It's not the ideal situation but I'm more than capable of taking care of my 7yr old son and baby daughter on my own.
Your children's father left you to be with a woman he was cheating on you with. Why do you want him back? Just curious. Is it because your scared to be a single parent. You do deserve more than what he dished out. If you decide to take him back, please let him know that what he did was unacceptable and very cowardly.
As for telling your mom. I can't talk. I see my dad and I know he know's I'm pregnant but I haven't told him directly yet. I know I will soon but I just don't want to hear the disappointment and I told you so. I know he means well but right now it's the last thing I want to hear. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 04/22/2010

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He did leave but he really has been calling me alot lately to see how i am feeling and stuff so i dont really know wat that means cuz he says he still loves me and wants to see me but he isnt sure when he can. As for me i am working part time rite now and my friend is living with me to help with the bills. i do have a friend watching my son. But i really miss him and i want him to come back but i dont know if he wants to. As for my mom i dont even know how i would go about telling her because i am so scared about wat she gonna say. she thinks i dont take care of my son so wat is she gonna think and say i am pregnant.

Rose - posted on 03/30/2010

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Hi. I was in that situation before. It really hurts when your BF left you that time of your pregnancy. Pregnant women tend to depend on the man during that stage. But, if he really did left you, then its about time you take care of yourself? By the way, are you working? What is your source of income? If you are financially stable and can take care of yourself during your pregnancy, there is nothing to worry about. What you should be doing now is to make sure that you take the necessary vitamins and good food for your baby. If you can avoid it, do not cry too much. I know it is easier said but I overcame it. Take care of yourself and your baby. If you can afford a babysitter or helper to watch your other child then hire Telling your mother right now may be hard for you . Just wait for the right time. But if you are going to be financially miserable then you need to tell your relatives especially your mother about your situation.

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