We need help, we are alone. Daddy left we.

Henrietta - posted on 07/07/2016 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Hi.
Somebody if can help me, please let me know. My daughter is 7 months old, and her daddy is left we. He wanna move to original country, and he didn't want to resign his daughter, but he don't want to pay any cost after the baby. He always keep me in terror via texts messages.
Where can I get help?
How can I claim for cost to my daughter?
Please help me!!!!!

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Maria - posted on 07/11/2016

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He is a liar. Why would an employer get involved in a custody dispute. Get family courts involved. But a restraining order to keep him away from your child and you.

Maria - posted on 07/11/2016

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If he is in another country I think it would be hard to make him pay child support.

Sofia - posted on 07/14/2016

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I'm not but I took care of my little sister who is 15 years younger than me. I have a Toddler! I'll be 45 soon. I've been in abusive relationships and these people eat your soul. It took many years to realize how much damage has been done...abusive family, abusive partners have been in my life. But not anymore. I've learned to walk away. As women we've been trained to take a lot of shit from others. Even on these boards, women are encouraged by other women to have pity, try harder or they say: What did you do to cause the problem? That make you feel guilty or to blame for being abused!
My mother took me to women shelters when I was a child. 13 times! She didn't have a courage to leave. I went to 5 different school in one year. It was awful.

Sofia - posted on 07/14/2016

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You will be much happier alone. You have a LONG life ahead. I am sorry this happens. Being a single parent is hard but being with a person who doesn't care and abuses you will kill you. Your spirit and your health. We were put on this earth to be Happy :-)

Sofia - posted on 07/14/2016

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The shit feeling is there because you are in a shit situation. The ONLY way to make it better is to take control of your life instead of waiting to see what husband does. You want a family but you can't have it with him. Remember that. Eventually you will have that but he's not the one

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Henrietta - posted on 07/18/2016

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I waist my time. You know he will left this country.
CAB - Citizens Advice Bureau

Henrietta - posted on 07/18/2016

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I'll go to CAB tomorrow morning again.
I'm worry. My time is less than less. I must to wait days for everything. I am worry I will run out of time. :-(

Sofia - posted on 07/16/2016

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I don't live in UK so I don't know about money; however, these things aren't enough. There are churches that will help and if you go live in a women shelter --your rent and food and clothes will be taken care of.

Henrietta - posted on 07/16/2016

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I claimed Income Support from Jobcentre, i talked with an advisor in Citizens Advice, and he told me this income support, and he was advised me I can't claim child cost from the daddy, because if he left this country, he not will residents in England. And I can claim from the government this cost.
I filled in calculator on gov.uk and I think something wrong happend cause it's tell me 7 pounds per week for child care cost. If it's true than this not too much help, but better like nothing. But I think there is something went wrong...

Henrietta - posted on 07/16/2016

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Than you had lot of experience with this shit life. I had one 8 years relationship, and last one was 1,5 years.
From this relationship I got a baby. (1,5years)
I feel currently don't want nobody around me, but my previous ex is helping me. He was came for me and my daughter to London and he took me to my friend's house in Manchester.
I called my friend at 4 pm and told my problem, and my previous ex arrived after my phone call around 5 hours. So he gone asap for we.

Henrietta - posted on 07/14/2016

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Yes, it's really a shit situation. I know, he isn't my true love. But I can't believe that it's real.
Sometimes better if someone staying alone, it's always hard job to be single parent. But my feeling is may be I do my life alone, it's maybe will better than fighting for like this wrong relationship.
Just I am sorry. I know that nobody isn't perfect, but I didn't feel in right place in there.
If I did everything that he wants, I should be in family. I shouldn't be sad, and alone. But everything is going better like there was...just I am very alone.
My friend, Monica told me, I'll be happy in this life, I'll find someone who never will left we alone.
I am too sad for think one other men. I think all men is layer, and all is wrong.

Henrietta - posted on 07/14/2016

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I feel " better " thank you. I'll go to CAB tomorrow morning. I hope they can tell me something, what can I do now.
Anna's " daddy " didn't send text on this week. I can relax a little bit from him.
I give thanks for God. Anna is okay, she happy and smile, she eating more, and sleeping more. So I give thanks for God.

I have missing from feeling of " family "... ... Normal family life... When will this sh*t feeling gone away? Never? I will always feeling something missing from my life?

Sofia - posted on 07/12/2016

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Yes,
That's. What I've been telling you. So you can't get money from him now. You need to get help, get your life together. You will make it!

Henrietta - posted on 07/12/2016

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If he gone to original country, he can't following we. But my health visitor said I can call the police if he keep me in terror. And she told me, no one can't take away my child. And he just talking...

Henrietta - posted on 07/10/2016

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I just afraid. I had 3 miscarriage before my Anna, and Anna is middle of my life. If someone take away from me.... Than my life is not more like empty.... I don't know how can I say. But I think, who is here, and reading my comments, she knows what I mean.

I don't know nothing at the moment, just one... I need growing up my daughter! I want give to her the best. If it mean I will be always single, I will do it. I just want to see my daughter happy with me.

My dream was a happy big family. My feeling is Broken Angel.
I feel unsure...

Sofia - posted on 07/10/2016

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You won't lose her. I can hear you are from overseas perhaps? Abusive people like to threaten those who don't know. Even those who are knowledgeable. There is NO WAY his employer will do anything. Your husband is a big talker. Keep focused and don't listen to him

Henrietta - posted on 07/10/2016

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I called my health visitor and she will come in my friends house where we are and she will give me some advice what can I do.
I am really worried about "this great daddy" want take away my daughter from me.
I am afraid that.
He said to me his employer had great lawyers and he can use these for the company cost. And I am afraid that he will take away my small one. :-(
I am not drug user, i am don't drinking alcohol, I am never will hurt my daughter. I don't did it before!!!
He said I can saw nice future for the baby.
Someone was like this situation?
I don't want to lose my daughter! :-(

Sofia - posted on 07/10/2016

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If you don't have a place to stay, you can go to a women's shelter. You can also call and they will give you referrals

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