WHAT ADVISE CAN YOU GIVE ME ABOUT CUSTODY

KATHERINE - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I WAS IN A 5 YR. RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER, THE REASON I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM IS THAT I FINALLY OPENED MY EYES CAUSE HE IS VERY CONTROLLING, MENTALLY ABUSIVE, LIKE A CON MAN TYPE AND I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I WAS YOUNG AND FOOLISH. HE HAS 3 SONS FROM 2 DIFFERENT MOMS AND MY DAUGHTER. HE THREW ME OUT OF MY HOME WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER AND LEFT ME STRANDED IN A STORE. I STAYED AT A FRIENDS PLACE, HE DIDN'T CALL MY MOM AFTER 3 DAYS AND LIED TO HER AND SAID, I LEFT. I AM AFRAID OF HIM BUT HE CONTROLLED THE VISITATION FOR MY DAUGHTER AND MAKING IT DIFFICULT AT TIMES FOR ME TO SEE HER. I DIDN'T KNOW MY RIGHTS SOMETIMES YOU CALL PLACES AND EVERYONE TELLS YOU A DIFFERENT THING. I DID GO TO COURT AND APPLY FOR A CUSTODY DATE. I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE CAUSE ALL OF A SUDDEN HE HAS ANOTHER WOMEN LIVING WITH HIM WITH A BABY GIRL AND HE IS GOING TO TEACH MY DAUGHTER THAT IS HER MOMMY TOO AND I DON'T THINK THIS IS FAIR. SO, FAR, I WENT TO THE POLICE DEPT. AND HE ADVISED ME TO KEEP HER UNTIL COURT DAY BUT HE IS VERY INTIMINATING AND SAYS THINGS TO ME TO SCARE ME AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO LIVE WITH ME AT MY PARENTS HOUSE MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD. I DID GET ADVICE BUT IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE THAT HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS??? I WANT TO WIN MY DAUGHTER. THERE IS ONLY MALES IN THAT HOUSE THAT ARE HIS SON'S AND THERE GETTING BIG AND YOU TURN AROUND AND THEY'LL BE MEN AND I DON'T LIKE THAT EITHER. HE DOESN'T WANT THEM TO HAVE FRIENDS AND REALLY DOESN'T TAKE THEM TO OUTINGS AND DO SPECIAL THINGS FOR THEM BUT PUT THEM DOWN AND NEVER GIVES THEM GOOD ADVICE OR REWARD THEM WHEN THEY DO GOOD AND THERE GOOD BOYS HE HAS THEM LIKE SLAVES THERE THE ONES WHO DO EVERYTHING. I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM WHAT KIND OF LIFE WOULD MY DAUGHTER HAVE IF I LOSE HER WITH NO FRIENDS AND SURROUNDED BY MALE ONLY. MEN DON'T DO WHAT A MOTHER WOULD DO FOR HER CHILD. ESPECIALLY WITH THE GROOMING MY DAUGHTER SOMETIMES LOOKS LIKE A ORPHAN. SHE HAS BEAUTIFUL CLOTHES THAT MY MOTHER PURCHASED AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO GIVE THEM BACK AND MY MOM BOUGHT 90% OF HER STUFF AND HAS PROOF OF PURCHASE. DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO?

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Stephanie - posted on 08/08/2012

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I am in a bad situation also. The father of my 22 month old daughter wanted me to get an abortion. I refused. He pretended me or the pregnancy didn't exist. After she was born, she got sick and we spent thanksgiving week in the hospital. And again Christmas week, only to be transferred to a children's hospital due to menegitis. I almost lost her. At this point her father atoll had not acknowledged her. After she was released from hospital I took him to court and they ordered a paternity test. He still refused and I had to file contempt in order for him to take it. At the final court date, I was given physical primary and legal custody. He got every other weekend and 2 weeks in the summer. He began after she was 4 months old to get to know her and eventually grew to love her very much. We got back together but we could never work it out. He drank and would be ugly to me. Always fighting. I tried to make it work but gave up. I soon started dating someone else and eventually got engaged to him. He left after a year and I was heartbroken. My daughters father swooned his way in and I gave him a chance. We got married quickly and within 2 weeks I realized it was a mistake. But the custody papers were now null and void. He wouldn't let me leave the house with my daughter. Lied and told police I threatened his life. It cost me my job. It cost me my house, which j had a year before we were married. I was able to leave with my daughter due to the police finding out he lied. Now I staying with a friend and waiting on our first divorce court date. He says he is fighting for full custody and I am scared out of my mind I will lose. He continues to make up lies and makes me out to be a horrible person. All I cando is sit and wait for a judge to decide.y advice is to fight with everything you have for your children.h husband is doing this to hurt me because I asked for a divorce.

Joanne - posted on 08/05/2012

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Go down to the Family Law Facilitator immediatelym file for sole physical and legal custody-the mediator will help you but you have to get in their first. I-f you have any money get an attorney!!!

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