WHAT ADVISE CAN YOU GIVE ME ABOUT CUSTODY

KATHERINE - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

I WAS IN A 5 YR. RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER, THE REASON I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM IS THAT I FINALLY OPENED MY EYES CAUSE HE IS VERY CONTROLLING, MENTALLY ABUSIVE, LIKE A CON MAN TYPE AND I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I WAS YOUNG AND FOOLISH. HE HAS 3 SONS FROM 2 DIFFERENT MOMS AND MY DAUGHTER. HE THREW ME OUT OF MY HOME WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER AND LEFT ME STRANDED IN A STORE. I STAYED AT A FRIENDS PLACE, HE DIDN'T CALL MY MOM AFTER 3 DAYS AND LIED TO HER AND SAID, I LEFT. I AM AFRAID OF HIM BUT HE CONTROLLED THE VISITATION FOR MY DAUGHTER AND MAKING IT DIFFICULT AT TIMES FOR ME TO SEE HER. I DIDN'T KNOW MY RIGHTS SOMETIMES YOU CALL PLACES AND EVERYONE TELLS YOU A DIFFERENT THING. I DID GO TO COURT AND APPLY FOR A CUSTODY DATE. I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE CAUSE ALL OF A SUDDEN HE HAS ANOTHER WOMEN LIVING WITH HIM WITH A BABY GIRL AND HE IS GOING TO TEACH MY DAUGHTER THAT IS HER MOMMY TOO AND I DON'T THINK THIS IS FAIR. SO, FAR, I WENT TO THE POLICE DEPT. AND HE ADVISED ME TO KEEP HER UNTIL COURT DAY BUT HE IS VERY INTIMINATING AND SAYS THINGS TO ME TO SCARE ME AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO LIVE WITH ME AT MY PARENTS HOUSE MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD. I DID GET ADVICE BUT IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE THAT HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS??? I WANT TO WIN MY DAUGHTER. THERE IS ONLY MALES IN THAT HOUSE THAT ARE HIS SON'S AND THERE GETTING BIG AND YOU TURN AROUND AND THEY'LL BE MEN AND I DON'T LIKE THAT EITHER. HE DOESN'T WANT THEM TO HAVE FRIENDS AND REALLY DOESN'T TAKE THEM TO OUTINGS AND DO SPECIAL THINGS FOR THEM BUT PUT THEM DOWN AND NEVER GIVES THEM GOOD ADVICE OR REWARD THEM WHEN THEY DO GOOD AND THERE GOOD BOYS HE HAS THEM LIKE SLAVES THERE THE ONES WHO DO EVERYTHING. I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM WHAT KIND OF LIFE WOULD MY DAUGHTER HAVE IF I LOSE HER WITH NO FRIENDS AND SURROUNDED BY MALE ONLY. MEN DON'T DO WHAT A MOTHER WOULD DO FOR HER CHILD. ESPECIALLY WITH THE GROOMING MY DAUGHTER SOMETIMES LOOKS LIKE A ORPHAN. SHE HAS BEAUTIFUL CLOTHES THAT MY MOTHER PURCHASED AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO GIVE THEM BACK AND MY MOM BOUGHT 90% OF HER STUFF AND HAS PROOF OF PURCHASE. DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO?