Samantha - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 91 moms have responded )
Me and my child's father haven't really ever got along while I was caring his child he would fight with me and push me around he wouldn't buy anything for our child but would go out and buy an outfit for his sisters baby he left everything up to me and my family so after I had my child 3 weeks later I left him and I told him that he could still be in our child's life but I just couldn't be with him...Well it got to the point that we would fight online,on the phone,face 2 face he would get his one sister to call me from 12am till 5am calling me unfit and so on mean while a month has pasted and he didn't see our child on Fathers Day I had to yell and fight with him to come out and see our child and he only came out for 2 hrs.....I then met a guy and got together with him and during the hole 9 months of seeing this new guy my child's father made my life a living hell to the point I had to call the cops and make it so he couldn't talk to me or come with in 100 feet from me, he then took me to court to get all rights of my child but he lost the case and got no rights what so ever but about 2 months ago I felt bad an gave him a 2en chance to prove that he wanted his family back and could be the man i wanted him to be, I gave him a list to do:
1.come once a week to see our child for an hr or 2
2.then after a month or 2 of doing that he could take her out for the day
3.after 2 months of that he could have her over night
4.if all went well he could have her every other weekend
he came over one time and seen her he ended up sweet talking me into taking him back so I did and it only lasted 2 weeks before he ended up hitting me in the face in front of my 2 friends and my child so i left the living room with my child and locked the bedroom door 15 mins later my friends left for 10 mins and with in to 15 mins my child's father pushed me into a brick wall and cut my back open now its been 3 months since he has seen our child and now hes asking me to take him back again that he has changed and loves me so very much and so on and wants to be with his child.....Now is he using our child to get me back or do you think he does miss her and does want his family back? and it also doesn't help when he calls me he never asks me about her just wants to go on about me or who I'm seeing like I'm so stuck because I came from a broken family and don't want that for my child but I also know its not a good thing to be with her father but im still stuck and have no clue what to do.....can someone pls tell me what they think about this all?