Lindsey - posted on 06/04/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )
My ex has a terrible track record for being a dad. He is bipolar, on probation with no license for DUIs, and has been a drug user. He has been hospitalized several times for threatening suicide.
He has been clean for several months and is pushing for a lot of time with our sons (4 and 7). Yesterday we got into a huge fight. He had the boys one night last weekend and saw them 3 days during the week at our apartment. We didn't see him 3 days in a row - so he picked a fight. He threatened to take me to court for custody because he is "tired of having to ask to see his kids." I should invite him over more often. The kicker is he does see the boys some and does play with them some (he never did this much even during our marriage). He wants to be a father for the first time in these kids' lives. But he also wants to be with me. He hangs around and tries to flirt with me, hug me, asks to spend the night. He gets pissy when I don't let him do any of these things and goes back to threatening about taking me to court over the kids and complaining about DHS taking child support directly out of his paycheck without him agreeing to that.
I think he sees them more than enough. I would honestly be perfectly happy if he dropped off the face of the earth. It takes so much energy to deal with him. Its almost like the divorce meant nothing and I still have to put up with him every day. I don't have the money to go back to court. I am just at a loss for what to do. Any advice?