What do i do to stop my childs father from getting custody, visitation, or rights?

Jean - posted on 12/01/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




When i got prego in 2009 and told my sons father he walked away i told him everytime i had an app that he could come and he never did during ultrasounds nothing i told him the night i went in to be induced and he never showed instead his mother who hates me did. About six months later he coms over with his grandmother holds his son for two min and leaves i remind you he never seen his son then two weeks after my mom dies he comes over and stays for 5 min and takes a bunch of pics and leaves no goodbye again and then about two nights ago his mom starts calling me and saying that they are going to get custody and he has rights and she called children services on me five times each time they didnt see nothing wrong she tries to take my son all the time i just want it to stop please help me


Dawn - posted on 12/02/2010




get a solicitor as his family sound like they causeing you stress which isnt good for u or baby solicitor will tell u wot they can andcannot do and like everyone else said the social services wont take ur child away unless there is neglect or abuse trust me i kno the amount of times either the dads or so called mates have got social services on me n they come look at my kids they all well fed n dressed with wot little money i get and id fight tooth n nail to keep my kids as i have once before with my oldest dont worry bout it but see a solicitor to help u find out wot rights ur x has if his name not on birth certificate he doesnt have parental rights at all to ur child i kno that much hope it helps keep ya chin up

Courtenay - posted on 12/02/2010




i ahve a similar situation, my exs came to some of the appointments and was their for the birth but we separted a few months later. he didnt wont anything to do with my son after the birth, and when i left him it was his family pushing to see my son not him. they told em they we going to take me to court and get him taken away, but the court will never take away your child if he is in a stable environment which it sounds like he is. they are just playing games with you, and i no its easier said than done not to let them get to you believe me i am still trying to work out how to do it, but jsut be stonge for your son, you love him and he loves and that will never change even if his father does come back into his life. my son is now seeing his father once a week, we have to travel a hour 1st and then he has him for 5 hours, and its really hard for me to be away from him and when noah comes back to me for the next 2 to 3 days he doesnt wont to be left alone. ive been through the medaition and it just doesnt help. just keep doing what your doing, let him know that u need advance notice if he wonts to see is son and set clear boundarys...if i could turn back the clock i would hve left things like there where where he hardly saw his father things were a little easier on us all. jsut remember no matter what he cant take your son away ur a great mum!

Cathy - posted on 12/02/2010




They cannot take your baby away from you unless they can prove abuse, neglect or if you can't provide for him. I think that this "custody" issue comes from his mom's side and not him. Sounds more like she wants custody. You sound like you haven't denied them visitation so i don't see why they are doing this. Have you spoken to him about it?


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Jean - posted on 12/02/2010




what i have learned so far about his mom is that she was 14 when she had him and neglected him and when he turned 7 is when she wanted something to do with him the rest of the time her brother and sisters took care of bd

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