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I'm in the middle of a divorce, and as expected, we are stuck on figuring out a visitation schedule for our 2 year old son.
The father and I are on speaking terms and amicable, and we live within a half hour of each other. I am getting physical custody, and we are including a visitation schedule to be in effect until he turns 5 and starts kindergarten. At the moment, our schedule changes from week to week based on his father's work schedule (he's a part-time musician, mainly involving gigs at night).
I am offering him 2 days per week, on Sunday and Monday. He is pushing for a third day, in the middle of the week, probably Thursdays. I do not think this would be good for our son, for several reasons.
1/ Our son is obviously very confused and has been acting out (biting, tantrums) because there's no regular routine.
2/ This scenario would only allow me to have him two days in a row, twice a week, which I don't feel is enough to establish routines and enforce house rules.
I was hoping to get some feedback from other moms who have been through this. What is your visitation schedule, and is it working for you?
Thanks in advance for any advice.