What will happen if my son's "father" doesn't work and they come after him for child support?

Shyanne - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi all. I have a question. My son's father abandoned me when I was five months pregnant, and since then I've been on my own. He's not on his birth certificate and has no legal rights to him. About three months ago I was informed that in order to renew my son's health insurance, I'd have to do an interview with the local child support enforement office. I knew they'd ask me questions about my son's "father" in order to force child support, but my biggest fear was that they would grant him custody too (I know now that this isn't the case, thank god). I told them all I had was his name and the state he lived in (he moved away before I even gave birth). They ended up finding his idenity, but not his address. Since then I guess that's been their goal. Well, the day I did the interview, I called him and told him the situation. I knew, at that particular time, he was employed.



I called today to check on the status. They said that they checked their system and that there are no present employers listed. He obviously quit his job so that he didn't have to pay, which is what I figured he'd do. They're still in the process of finding his exact location.



My question is, when they find him, what will they do if he has no job? Does this vary on each state? The only thing I can guess is that they can't do anything. I know that once he does start working again they'll just take it from his check, but he's the kind of person who would stay unemployed his whole life just to get out of these payments; in fact, it's a good excuse not to work. He has no conscious at all. Thanks for any and all help. :)

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Nancy - posted on 09/29/2009

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Hi, in answer to your post... Im in florida so things do vary from state to sate. whane my ex decided to stop[ paying support for his kids last year, so far his driver licence is suspended, he is some how working for someone that pays him cash so they cant take it from his pay.. After the d/l suspension they flagged his s.s number and informed the irs, so if he ever gets a returnt they will send it to me for the kids... well he hasnt filed yet so by tracking his s.s number again they just now froze his bank account... Hopefully within a few months My kids will be getting whatever is in that account, im sure its not all hes owes but it will help at this point... So hang in there, it may take time but results are possible...

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2009

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Every state has their own way of doing things. I live in florida, and I know that if the father doesn't pay, you can report it the child support enforcement agency and they can eventually put a warrent out for his arrest. They will not enforce this on their own, YOU have to stay on it. As far as him not having a job, he will be ordered to pay no matter what, so he can either get a job or go to jail. You might want to find out if he is working under the table and if thats the case you can report him for tax evasion :) I had to investigate some things on my own and let the agency know what I found out. Again, each state may have there own way of doing things so I would call the agency and ask them any question you can think of. Another option is talking to a lawyer (most will give legal advice for free). Good luck! It's a long, drawn out and annoying process, but it will benefit you and your child in the end!

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Brooke - posted on 09/20/2010

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I live in Missouri, and my child's father pretty much does the same..works for awhile, then quits and works under the table..They didn't do anything until he was about $5000 behind, then they try to go after his license, after that jail time..continuous cycle..if one payment is made, even if it's 5 bucks, they consider that a payment..sad! But, it'll just rack up on him and follow him for life!

Ceola - posted on 09/19/2010

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Hi i thought i would add my dollars in here i am from New Zealand and child support here is so laid back its almost a waste of tax payers money. Im separated from my kids father for over 3 years and he has the cheek to ask me to stop child support because my version is he hates that he can not control the money and when he got his tax return it all got taken from him. But keep up the good work being a solo parent is hard but rewarding

Jenille - posted on 09/19/2010

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here in the Phil. if the father is unemployed you can't get a support and even if he does if he doesn't like. The justice system is so slow here, sometimes it is taken for granted by the officials. this is my case.

Kerry - posted on 10/02/2009

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im living in South Wales UK.
here, they have a similar process. If they work they can either pay the money direct to u, or they can pay it via their wages. if unemployed they get jobseekers allowance, but they will still have to pay a minimum of £5 per week. (which wont go far).
i have 2 sons :- 1 of which will b 9 years old in a few months, which his father has NEVER paid maintainence for, everytime the Child Support has caught up with him, he has either quit his job or said that he only works part time,.
bearing in mind he never paid for his son, when we were 2gether. the last letter i had from the Child Support had a form attached, which had 15 questions on there to answer about the father. that including details of employment and any vehicles he was driving, also if i had a picture of him to send that with the form.
On the detailed part of the letter it stated that he owed over £30,000 that was approx 3 years ago.
even tho he WAS on the birth cert he has NO parental responsibilty as we were NOT married.

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Wow. Sorry I can't help as I am in NewZealand but good luck with it all.! You'll get there in the end - I'm sure it'll be long and probably painful but it WILL work out.! I'm just starting the same process - My babys dad has a new girlfriend (who is now pregnant) - he left me when I told him I was pregnant and keeping it. now all I ever hear from them is his girlfriend abusing me over text - he moved and changed his phone numbers etc so I couldn't contact him. Now he wants a DNA test to proove he's his and then he said he will go on birth certificate but I dont want him near my son - but I think he should know who his father is (even though he is a total tosser) and I think he should pay child support even though he rang me up off a restricted number and said he wouldnt even bother making the small drive to see us and doesnt want anything to do with Ollie etc etc. Thinking about doing DNA test to proove him wrong then not getting him on birth cert so he can't visit him as I don't trust him around my baby. Verrrrrry hard doing it alone I though. Luckily I have very supportive friends and family who are more than happy for me to talk about him like mad to them (: Good luck with it all. you will get it sorted.!

Tori - posted on 09/28/2009

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the money that he will owe will keep adding up and if he doesnt pay he will go to jail!

Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009

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Hey ok so is what will happen, is the balance, will continue to add up (my ex already owes over 6 grand and we have been seperated since feb) so when he does get a job, they will take it out of his check, also his license will be suspended if he continues to not pay and should he be receiving any money from the state or unemployment they can take that out also. one day though he will end up paying all of it( my father had to pay over 20 grand even after I turned 18) jail time will also be an option. That is all the information i know- sorry i can't be of more help. hope it all works out for you =)

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