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When can you tell your a single mom.

Marcie - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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well I had my daughter at 17 after a 4 year relationship with he dad went sour I moved far away and fell in love with my boss at my new job (not over night took a year or so) well this past 4th of july marked my new mans 4th year with me. we have a son together. I lived with him for 1 1/2 year and then moved out once i lost my job and had a hard time finding a new one and all he did was bitch about money.. we still see each other regularly...but I am the only one doing bedtimes, diaper changes. feeding him dinner, lunch breakfast whether he is there or not. 3 weeks ago I asked him if he had vacation time at work to use up because (I got my tubes tied today) i needed to know if he could at least take our son for 2-3 days MAX and my daughter who is older isnt a hassle when it comes down to me needing rest ....plus my paprents said she was welcome there if need be. well I said he didnt have time off...but i find it funny he took all last week off ALL of it the week before my surgery....and asks how long will it be before we can have sex again. R U SERIOUS??!! now don't think he's in it just for the sex. He's broken up with me and came crying back at my door. i break up with him it takes a few days but again it's HIM coming to me. and I hate to love him cuz i just keep dealing with it. any suggestions???

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Latasha - posted on 08/26/2009

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Well, I been through a similar situation with my sons father and it seems like your son's father takes his relationship with you for granted and that's not fair to you or your children. So I wouldn't tell you to leave him forever but I will say leave him for more than a few days. Leave him for at least a month and if it's meant to be he'll still come back but next time he'll realize what he has to loose by being a jerk and not helping you with his son. And if he doesn't come back I promise you that you will get over it and your children will be happier because you'll be less stressed without having to deal with his crap. Good luck in whatever decision you decide to make.

Rachel - posted on 08/26/2009

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Only you know what's really going on in your relationship, maybe you guys need a break to see if your really committed to each other. But be careful my mother always said that if you go on a break you'll end up broken up so it's really hard to say. Take some time, really think about what's going on, don't rush into anything, and go from there. It's nice when a guy always comes back to you, but what r u getting in return other than him just leaving you and coming back into your life, roller costers are fun at the park but not so much in the home for you or your kids. Good luck.

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