When do you know it's the right time to start dating again?

Olivia - posted on 07/11/2009

I would love to "date" but it's only been 4 months and I have had no "takers." Because of that, I feel that my ex's threats are becoming true. He told me that 'no one would have me.' That type of emotional abuse is what scarred me anyway. Now, I'm just trying to break that cycle. I say if you can date, then do it. However, be careful of your children getting attached to the person. If it's someone you are not planning on starting a true relationship with then i would not even bring that person to my home. This probably didn't help, but I think it can be done.

Rochelle - posted on 07/11/2009

I don't think there is really a 'right' time. Sometimes you need to dive in there to realize your not ready for it. I soooo agree with what the other mama's have said about introducing your kids. Its really really hard, in my situation, we did everything right. Waited till we were good before i let him into my sons life but when it didn't work out - it was like Kaia lost his dad all over again.
Its scary but you'll probably surprise yourself.

Carole - posted on 07/10/2009

Very well said, Candice! (And I know that I'm not there yet.)

THEODORA - posted on 07/10/2009

Its a good thing that you have forgiven your ex.That means that you are half way to start dating....I believe that after 3 years you should go for it.

You deserve to be happy and find someone to be besides you...this will make also your son happy and you a better mum.Good luck!

Melony - posted on 07/10/2009

Oh I fully agree with Candice hun, I'm also a singel mom, my littel girl is almost 17 months now and I also just sorta recently started dating again, and let me tell you it's kinda fun!! Good luck and may God bless you in your journey ahead!!

Rachel - posted on 07/09/2009

Thank you, I have forgiven my ex, but I am just scared to make that jump...it has been over 3 years since I dated. I won't bring any guys into the picture for the sake of my son's feelings! I think I need to just get over myself and get out there again : ) Thank you again ladies!

Natashja - posted on 07/09/2009

You can never really know. I've tried the whole dating thing, and it was really hard. You have to be careful who you bring around your kids, kids get attached very easily. So now if i decide that i want to go on a date, i do it when it's my weekend off, i try very hard to keep that part of my life away from my kids. You need to make sure that who ever you bring around your kids, plans on being in your life for a long time.

Candice - posted on 07/09/2009

when you no longer feel emotionally attached to the ex. when you feel you have something of yourself to give without just being needy. when you are ready to trust again, and to be open again, and to be vulnerable again. when you are able to stop blaming all men for the sins of past men. when you're ready to stand up as a whole person, to stand up for your child's best interests even if it means being alone. i think that's when you're ready.