Whens the last time you saw your childs father?

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How often does he come around? If he isnt involved is his family involveD?

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Chesi - posted on 04/04/2010

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I havent seeni my boys dad in years. He might see the boys once every year to two years. I have a really good relationship with his mom and sisters though. It is great they come to all of my family things and we go to theres as well. My ex lives in a different state and never comes to visit. But i always say I got 2 good things from my marriage My boys and i got another family.

Shana - posted on 04/04/2010

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I took my son to San Diego to see him and his family... His family is Great! Thought this father was great too. He ended up going back to prison. He wrote and called, then nothing--- for last 2 months nothing! I am sad, my 5 year old is DEVESTATED!!!

Catherine - posted on 04/04/2010

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Its so sad. I know what my ex told everyone about me, he put it on his myspace. He told every one I was a one night stand gone wrong, liar! We were together over a freaking month then I broke up with him.

Rhonda - posted on 04/04/2010

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Well, my kids dad is in a 30 mile radius and will not visit or call.i got in touch with his mother she was involved for a while and then she stopped.he insisted she not get involved because of the amount of child support i pay.he says its enough...

Shanda - posted on 04/04/2010

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The last time that i saw the father of my child was the day after valentines day. he just started not comming around and his aunt is really the only one that's somewhat involved with the pregnancy

Jacinta - posted on 04/04/2010

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I've not seen my boys "father" for 9 years and 4 months.. my boy is 9.5 his 'father' came to meet him when he was a month old, and has never been back. Won't sign the birth certificate but does pay support. claims he is not ready to be a 'dad'... his loss i say, my dude is fantastic and nothing stops us from living as a family.

Mandi - posted on 04/04/2010

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My son sociopathic father hasnt seen him in over 2 months and as far as im concerned i dont care if he ever sees him again im sick of all the bullshit excuses he comes up with and the empty promisses my boy(16mths) will be bettere off without him constantly hurtin him over and ovre agin. His family dont even bother to contact me to see our their grandchild/nephew is so i can only imagine what he has told them, its all bullshit but i know we are better off without him in the end

Joanne - posted on 04/04/2010

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i have 2 gorgeous boys levi whos 4 and rio whos 1, rios a really poorly boy and will be for the rest of his life, they last saw thier daddy in november last year, he missed rios 1st birthday and xmas, hes allowed access, but seeing as he had twins with some one else now, its seem his boys arnt important anymore, rio doesnt know him and levis asking less and less for him, it hurts to know he cant b arsed, but they get all the love and support they need from me. xxx

Catherine - posted on 04/03/2010

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Wow is just me or do guys suck! I haven't seen my daughter's father since I told him I was pregnant either.

Brittany - posted on 04/03/2010

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the last time i saw my sons father was when i was 4 months pregnant and my son is 3 months old now....he has not once asked to see him nor has he called to ask me how hes doing....some of his family is involved...but not his mother the one that was most excited bc i was giving her her first grandson

Leah - posted on 04/03/2010

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my childs father thinks it's a game having kids...when i told him i was prego he stuck around for 2 weeks then left me for chicks that could drink and party with him..well he was in and out of jail, treatments, rehab, and a halfway house my whole pregnancy...he contacted me when my boy was 2 weeks old and has came around when he feels like it..but i told him he needed to grow up and he hasn't seen him in almost 2 months..we haven't even heard from him or his family.....

Justine - posted on 04/03/2010

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my daughter is 7 months old and her father has never seen her in his life and has not even acted like he has wanted to its sad for dads not want to be part of such a special person growing up

Cassandra - posted on 04/03/2010

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My sons father only seen my son the day of DNA testing and it was for a second...

Courtney - posted on 04/03/2010

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It's sad that this is a popular question.... but my answer is 2006. smh his family isn't from here so they BARELY help, call or send stuff....

Amy - posted on 04/03/2010

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My son's dad comes for an hour (if even that long) every 2-4 weeks. I figure that maybe someday he will get his priorities straight and regret all the times he chose to party or chose his new gf and her kids over his own child

Rina - posted on 04/03/2010

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my ex and I have a 75/25 split. I have them Sunday thru Friday and he sees them one night a week. I love it, we used to have a 50/50 which did not work out so well, after many trips back to court with police reports and counselors reports I fought for the 75% and won. My kids are better for it, and I do keep in contact with his family, they still treat me like a daughter and help out both money wise and as a babysitter's. my kids are very happy and well adjusted with the situation we have.

Bianca - posted on 04/03/2010

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My Daughter Has Seen Her Father 2-day Today, She's Blessed To Have Him In Her Life. Even If Me And Her Father Dont Stay Together He Loves Her More Than Anything And Will Continue To See Her. I See So Many Fathers Not Stepping Up To The Plate Like The Song Says [Just Be A Man About It]. They Need 2 Step Up And Show These Kids The Defenition Of A [Father].

Heather - posted on 04/03/2010

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Just yesterday finally. He actually changed a poopy diaper & gave him a bath. Before that it had been over a month.

Jenny - posted on 04/03/2010

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we look into are kids eyes and hearing mommy come from their mouths is are happiness and light of are life.....

Jenny - posted on 04/03/2010

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my kids hasnt seen there real dad in over 2 yrs now last time i seen him or his family is when my friends were pulling me off of him bc he told me that my kids dont mean shit to him and there worthless and he wish something would happen to them so he dont have to deal with paying child support. then he said he had a new family and he dont need my kids since he got another girl pg.

Crystal - posted on 04/03/2010

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I havent seen or heard from my daughter's father since she was about 3 or 4. She is now 8 yrs old. He thought drugs were better than her.. I also havent seen my son's father in about 5 months. He is in and out of trouble a lot. He got put in rehab by the judge and now he keeps calling me wanting to see my son.. But, it's to late, he has been in and out of my son's life and I am putting my foot down. My son's family does live in the area but only 1 of his aunt's is involved in his life. His father told his mother that he didnt think my son was his, so she believe's it.. My daughter's grandmother on her father's side live's up north and when she comes down they spend the day together.. Neither one of them pay child support

MELISSA - posted on 04/03/2010

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I haven't seen my daughter's father in 6 months but I am the only one that is putting in any time of effort so she can know who her father his she will spend the weekend with his mother they only live about 2 hours away and he only spends not even 5 mins with her when she is there and he never calls they have the same Birthday and he doesn't even call her then....

Betty - posted on 04/03/2010

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MY BABYS DAD IS IN JAIL AND WHEN I TOLE HIM I WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM BUT HE COULD BE THEIR FOR OUR DAUGHTER HE TOTALLY STOPPD CALLING AND I LOST CONTACT WITH HIM. LATER I FOUND OUT HE WAS IN JAIL.....

Jodie - posted on 04/03/2010

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My son's father has been out of the picture since my son was 15 months old. My son is now 10 yrs. His father called for awhile up until my son's 6 or 7th bday. My son wouldn't talk to him so I guess he stopped calling. No contact at all since then and I am not seeking contact.

Lynn - posted on 04/03/2010

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Last time I sen my son's father was when I was 6 weeks pregnant!! My son is now going on 6 months.. I just call him a donor..

Monica - posted on 04/03/2010

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I havent seen my baby's father since Abraham was 6 months old...his family lives in the area and i havent heard anything from anybody...its their lost

Raniesha - posted on 04/03/2010

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My child's father and his family seen him for the first time the day after he turned 6 months old which was 3/13/10 and we haven't seen any of them since.

Vanna - posted on 04/03/2010

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My daughters father left when I was 7 months pregnant. He ran up to Wisconsin to hide. He doesnt call and doesnt care how she is. I found out that his family doesnt even know she exists! But his closest friend checks in on us all the time and we go visit him. Sad really that hes missing out on her life!

Tammie - posted on 04/03/2010

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my ex husband only likes to see one of his daughters the youngest trying to play mind games with her so she would decided to live with him so that he won't have to pay child support she is now 16. He hasn't seen his oldest for almost 2 years now cuz she doesn't get along with his finance he picks finance over his own daughter we still see their aunts their grandparents have passed away. For my son 3 years old thats with another man also has nothing to do with him since july 6 day before his birthday of 2009 even thou he thinks he has to drive past my apt everyday. my son granparents from his dad side use to send saving bonds on his birthdays, family birthdays and holidays those have stopped to. Its their lost not mine i don't need their money or help.

Mu - posted on 04/03/2010

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I have not seen my baby daddy in 6months but its just as well...no love lost. The loss is on him considering we have the cuest brightest 21/2 year old ever.

Mo - posted on 04/02/2010

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my daughters have the same problem..... having the same Dad! lmao! The girls see their dad for an hour every week. However his mom has them both sleep over EVERY Friday. After 13 years I got tired of the abusive drunk. It's like he had two ppl. living in his head. He pays child support threw state disability. When it wasn't threw SSI he bitched about paying so I took him to court. Well, I'm not going to bash him just wish he was a better father for my girls! To all the single lady's dealing with the same thing ..... God is by your side!

Donna - posted on 04/02/2010

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I haven't seen my eldest father since he was about 3months old (he is now almost 7) and the father of my youngest doesn't even recognise my youngest as his (and he's 2)... and in both accounts niether family is involved either

Stacey - posted on 04/02/2010

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Samantha -- your posting struck close to home. I recently found out that my son's father is getting married to a woman with a boy a few years younger than my son. This boy has been his godson since he was born, and my son's father has always taken care of him. I was so angry when I found this out because he's never seen his own son (he left town while I was in the hospital giving birth). My son doesn't know that his father is getting married or that he's raising his stepson. Eventually, he may find this out when he's older, but for now... I just tell my son I love him twice as much when he asks why he doesn't get to have a dad.

Stacey - posted on 04/02/2010

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The last time I saw my son's father was 7 years ago at a court date. It is the only time I've seen him since I went into the hospital to give birth almost 9 years ago. He's had no contact with his child. His parents are mildly involved. They've seen my son twice. They do send him a birthday card, Christmas card, and sometimes and Easter card - and, they usually send a $20 gift card for him as well. I send them an update letter and pictures twice a year (in July and December) to try to encourage the relationship. The first few years were hard, but I'm used to being a single mom now. The hardest part is coming up with answers for my son when he asks where his father is. Luckily, he doesn't ask much.

Tiffany - posted on 04/02/2010

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the last time i saw my daughters father was when she was about 4 months old and i was letting him see her.. since then he hasn't asked to see his daughter at all...

Nicole - posted on 04/02/2010

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The last time I saw my son's father was just after my son was born in 2007. Not that he was involved anyways, he split when he found out I was pregnant. I later found out he was married

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wow..its crzy how ppls respond (didnt realize alot of father havent tried to make an effort or in the childs life) umm my baby daddy havent seen my 7months since last month cus we going thru court battle. i wanna get full custody and support from him. he never help out from the start!

Marketta - posted on 04/02/2010

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KJ's dad is overseas.... LONG STORY but at least he does call every day to check on her, sends child support every month - even before she was born, and gets on the webcam to see her. His family here is involved - she was just with her Aunt yesterday. Out of everything going on in our situation, I am glad that we all could be adults for her benefit and growth.

Samantha - posted on 04/02/2010

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my son is 10 now and he hasnt seen his father in 6 years and we were just told that his father just had another baby 2 days ago my son was heart broken and as i told him he has me and his sister and all of his family and that we didnt need him

Erica - posted on 04/02/2010

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I haven't seen my daughters father since early late January. Me seeing him isn't important, as long as he takes time to try to see her. He moved to OH in February, but has seen her recently when he came for a visit, while I was at work, and she was at the sitters.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2010

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the last time was when i was 2and a half week preganant,he went come back at 11 weeks, then went again for good. he was never there during or even when she was born, the day i went in to hosp to have her, he was in the same hosp but not for her but for his other gf they had been for their scran, her little one is 6weeks younger then mine. we have 3 children togther and he wants nothing to do with any of them, havent heard from anyone in his family since boxing day jsut gone. am wondering if they will turn up easter day.. i really do hope they dont as its not fair on the children

Laura - posted on 04/02/2010

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his decision... i have always told him he can come around whenever.. but he just doesn't..

Sarah - posted on 04/02/2010

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my daughter hasn't seen her dad since before christmas last year but she sees her Mama (his mum) once a week.

Sarah - posted on 04/02/2010

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my kids havent had anything to do with their dad since they were 2yrs old and six wks old. they are now nearly five yrs and nearly 3 yers, so its been awhile and they dont remember him anyway. Dont see his family either and they live in the same village

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