Kalea - posted on 11/18/2011 ( 35 moms have responded )
I am new to the site and my first child is due in January. The father of the baby wants him to have his last name. We are not together and I do not see us ever being together. He is a good man and wants to be involoved in the child's life, but since we are both military we will not be able to live in the same area for at least 3-4 years. I've heard it makes some things more difficult to not have the same name as your child. I like my last name and would like to give my baby my last name, but also want to keep his father included and our relationship friendly. I have considered hyphenating, but my last name is extremely long already. He has also not been very involved in my pregnancy, which may or may not be indicative of how involved he will be with the child. I know that I am the primary caregiver and have much more invested in our baby than he does. What are your thoughts on this issue and how do you recommend dealing with it?